Anxiety · Depression · mental health

Mental Health May 2023


Green is for Springtime. Hope, growing pains, shared joy. And Mental Health Awareness. Even though every person is unique, can we unite for mental health?

Robyn, a 35-year-old woman with brown hair streaked with silver smiles, posing with a small potted Peacock Plant.

Mental Health Is…

  • Listening to loved ones.
  • Not saying “Everyone feels that way.”
  • Watching for red flags.
  • Checking in: “I noticed you’re going through a lot, want to talk?”
  • Educating oneself on common signs of mental illness.
  • Not misusing terms: “I’m so depressed about canceling my weekend!”
  • Adults creating a safe space for kids to share emotions.
  • Not saying “You’ll grow out of it.”
  • Normalizing therapy as a tool.
  • Checking: “Do you know where to seek support in a crisis?”
  • Having someone you can call on a very bad day.
  • Asking “I need this done but I’m struggling. Will you please help?”
  • Sometimes medication is a part of the health equation.
  • Calling out misinformation: “Oh-see-dee is not an appropriate term for obsessively neat.”
  • Most people will struggle with mental illness during their life, so health care matters to everyone.
  • Calling out ageism and sexism: “Everyone can struggle with mental health, feminine, masculine, aged or youthful.”
  • Watch for: Losing enjoyment in things you love.
  • Watch for: Unsustainable coping techniques.
  • Journaling your thought patterns.
  • Self talk: “I’m doing a great job meal planning!”
  • Noticing when media is causing anxiety.
  • Knowing when we care for the body we care for the mind. And when we treat the mind we treat the body.
  • Showing the same compassion to yourself as you would show to others.

That’s a sweet list, if I do say do myself! I love a good bullet point journal before and after a video chat with my therapist.

White text on a green background reads, The way you are is okay.

My therapist uses the word “curiosity” a lot! She helps me with curious examination of my beliefs and motives: “Why do I feel nervous? What can I do differently? Who would be happy to help me? How can I meet my immediate needs? If I try, what are the best and worst possible outcomes?

Sometimes, Mental Health feels like a familar, oft-trod meadow whose knolls I have memorized. To me, mental illness often feels like dual realities. The soothing simplicity of fact overlays the imbalanced crackle, like a dying star, at my core. Both realities exist together. On a bad day, I suddenly sieze, fist clenched, caught in a wave of fear. Desperately clinging to my task list, I fight for calm. Anxiety is there. I’m safe, though. It’s there, I’m safe.

Photo: A rippling pond with lily pads, surrounded by green grass and shrubs and stones.

You know what? Sometimes people distance themselves from mental illness. It’s not necessarily intentional. It could be your choice or theirs. Needs change based on where we are in our lives. Close friends or family might not be who we need. It’s okay.

In the future, we’ll become capable of new things. Friendships will morph. Some people will be surprisingly supportive in a crisis! Depending on the people involved, difficult times can reinforce a relationship.

My parents, for example, have made every effort to listen to me while I battle my own monsters. Would I feel I could trust them if they had not consistently shown up for me? Definitely not.

If you don’t know how to help a friend, just be available for the quickest coffee break, notice their strength, compliment their work, and know your support matters.

Yesterday, I discovered a podcast from 2020 about Young Adult books. ALSO, they gush about one of my favorites, Born Confused by Tanuja Desai Hidier. Two podcasters (with impeccable taste) praise this underrated coming-of-age tale of self-love.

I felt excitement. I felt whole. My present self connected with my teenage self. This is the beauty of a story that bleeds truth and poetry. I am not an ABCD (American Born Confused Desi), but, as a neurodivergent teen, I strongly related to Dimple Lala’s lonesome angst. 📚

‘And it now occurred to me that maybe the whole point was, in fact, to lose yourself. But not in the sense of confusion–in the sense of connection to something bigger than yourself…Getting lost to be found.’

Tanuja Desai Hidier, Born Confused

What do you need? How can you be more curious? More prepared, educated, supportive? How can you be more YOU as you struggle to move forward? Green means go! Every single step is monumental in the mental health battle.

Thank you for reading. ☀️

I would love to recommend another bookish podcast I’ve been enjoying! Sisters Arya and Belle produce fun, nerdy content. Also, their Mental Health Awareness episode inspired me to create today’s post! 💚

Spotify thumbnail: White text reads, Blind Girls' Book Talk. Two pairs of wire rim glasses sit on a stack of books In the background.
Spotify episode description reads, Our Mental Health Experience - Blind Girls' Book Talk Episode 69
Find Belle and Arya at Blind Girls’ Book Talk on Youtube and Spotify or @BlindGirlsBooks on Instagram
Anxiety · Hope · Poetry

The Lost Reason To Write

It’s weird to look back on the trepidation with which I wrote my first few ‘Voice Of Reason’ blog posts. Anxious thoughts resisted sharing ideas which could be too personal, too indulgent, too controversial.

“Resisted” may be too soft a word. What is the word for feeling burning regret and shame the moment we are seen or heard?

Oh, yes. It’s Social Anxiety.

Social anxiety disorder is marked by an anxiety about situations where a person feels that they may be humiliated or scrutinized by others.

Centre for Addiction and Mental Health

Anxiety has less power these days to prevent me from sharing my voice. Slowly, word by word, I have boosted my faith in myself. I have built up strength by being authentic, thoughtful, and compassionate. I hear Anxiety telling me I’m wrong, but I have structured this blog carefully to support my goal.

Thumbnail photo of me in front of the Mickey Mouse feeris wheel at Disney's California Adventure.
Caption: My First Blog Post! June 6, 2017 The First, A Reason To Write

And yet, sharing my voice was not my only goal. I also strive to be brave enough and open enough to build human connections. I still want this, but…Anxiety still has power there, tearing me down for my loneliness. Kicking me off balance. I often believe I’m unworthy of connection.

This Again 

Are we back to this again
Am I sorry for being weak
For useless, clumsy words
For walking down your street?

Trying to see the good
Is like trying to stop a leak
I struggle within to choose
Whether help is worth defeat

The world is problematic
These worries aren't mine alone
So why can't I imagine
Picking up the phone?

I'm sorry I lost the words
I'm sorry for staying home
Be back when I'm okay
(And I apologize for this poem)

By Robyn - 2018

This again. No matter how far I’ve come, Anxiety can kick me back down to this state: desperate, isolated, despising myself, fearful of rejection. This poem I wrote in 2018 will always describe my life.

What you may not understand about my voice is that reason, compassion, and authenticity aren’t always enough. Maybe there’s someone listening to my voice who will lend a helping hand. At the very least, there is the hope of a helping hand. Hope is always a valid reason to write.

Thank you for reading! 💜

Anxiety · mental health · Neurodivergent

The Privilege Of Robyn the Weird

In my opinion, I am a strong and determined person. I see what looks to be true and right to me, and I go for it.

Is this nature or nurture or both? It’s impossible to know. But I can look back at my feelings. I can explore past reactions to my environment. For example, I cannot remember ever trying to dress for other people. As a child, I didn’t think I should have to blend in or to pretend to be like other people.

Autonomy has been an advantage of my upbringing. My parents had very flexible expectations. Clothing just had to be functional. Food was food. We were allowed to eat outside of mealtimes, in fact the kitchen was stocked with snacks we could choose for ourselves. As for entertainment, we were provided with instruments if we wanted to learn. I felt free to develop an interest in any music genre.

We were not pressured to attend church once we were old enough to stay home alone, nor to be baptized. One could argue that this was not guidance enough for children, but I do aknowledge the privilege of being raised by accepting parents.

Another privilege relates to both family and society. I had the privilege of choosing a lifestyle that was generally understood and accepted. I did not want more directionless schooling. I wanted to work. My boyfriend and I decided to marry and work and travel. We viewed the future as wide open! My parents offered to give us a wedding and made the whole experience very special for us.

I have been negatively impacted by society’s expectations of women at times. But thankfully, wonderfully, my family has never limited me by pressuring me to do the chronologically “normal” things. Although we got married at 20, nobody openly assumed that we would follow the common relationship path (destination parenthood, etc.). Now we’re in our 30s, my husband and I are just as happy and even more excited about our life together!


What I’m trying to say is that I feel grateful. And my gratitude conflicts with the despair I feel as I fail to fit in with a community. Fail. It’s a heavy word, full of trying and wanting and hoping and loss. With each job came a supervisor who looked bemused at my need for clarification. Were my questions so unusual? With each new acquaintance came the rollercoaster: make a plan, open up, answer with too much, answer with too little, go home to collapse from stress, wonder why everything was so hard.

Then, Neurodivergence. (Not the title of a sci-fi film, but the experience of being wired differently from the majority of people.) This was a type, a description, a way of being that fit me. Different forever, from birth to death. And I was not alone! There were adults worldwide living their neurodivergent lives, some with a label and others without. Perpetually anxious, perpetually explaining, often othered, often lonely.

What do you think I did with this realization? I asked myself, what is right and true to me?

No amount of joy in my true self could erase the grief over what could have been had I understood myself sooner. It was unfair! My unintentional mask had sapped my energies, only to barely succeed at appearing normal. And, now what? I had to re-learn what was real and what was forced? I know that many other neurodivergent folks have experienced more pressure and oppression and have much more to grieve than I do. But I am Robyn the Weird so I have to say she deserved much better!


Learning is key to this whole “being alive” experience. The longer we’re alive, the more we relax our expectations. Compare a grandparent’s perspective to how that same person viewed the world as a young parent – time made a big difference! The truth is, we could fasttrack the lessons of time by cultivating acceptance. We would need to unite our families and communities with a shared vision that there is no normal. The goal: to foster communication between people who think differently.

Think what would change if employers were prepared to ask what the new hire needed to succeed. Think of the friendships that could grow from asking each other to be authentic, to share their uniqueness, up front.

When I learned to value my neurodivergent brain, my love for myself extended to others. I wanted to understand how others experience life. It is not enough to hit the local coffee chain wearing a plastic smile and exchange the usual social banter. That shouldn’t be enough for anyone.

Open My Eyes

Every time a neurodivergent voice rings out authentically, our world becomes a brighter place. That is, if the world is listening at all. As with any privilege, the neurotypical experience blinds most people to the dangers of social norms. But a disability points out how the world neglects those who are different. In communicating what they need, the neurodivergent population shines a light on what is wrong with society. However, solutions are not simple by any means.

For example, why are so many jobs dehumanizing? Why are so many laws made to benefit the non-disabled and the two-parent family structure? Whose fault is it that there aren’t flexible living arrangements and careers that accommodate health and wellness? Is poverty the default outcome for those who aren’t attaining full-time work with a spouse, children, and a community that understands them?

A person disadvantaged by society needs creative solutions, yet society makes it even more difficult to put those solutions into practice. (Ranty truth, here we go!)

Don’t you agree that flexible jobs and living arrangements that support mental health and wellness would benefit every human being? How could successful employment and improved health not benefit the entire community, the country, everyone?

(Cue the bemused neurotypical wondering what we just did to their perception of normal!)

A Beautiful Trainwreck

So I’m living in the now, unmasking, and processing old experiences anew to understand my truth. There’s pain and clarity. Privilege and disadvantage. It’s a beautiful trainwreck!

I’m looking with fresh eyes at the messages the world sends reeling through the atmosphere: labels are nothing, labels are everything. Change is crucial, change is dangerous. Corporations care and Capitalism keeps the world afloat. Different is wonderful, but not hirable. I could go on, but the overall message is one you all know intimately.

In my privilege, I write a blog for fun and I write emails full-time for one company or another. I have a loving, happy marriage partnership. I have fought for myself to get where I am now.

In my differences, I find strength, joy, humanity, creativity and a hunger for truth. You can find this, too. 1) Understand your disadvantages and your privilege. 2) Grow an interest in the uniqueness of each human’s experience. See, we all have pain in common. Pain leads to action which leads to bettering the world.

Is the world good enough now? If you answer yes, I might suggest you examine your privilege, too.

Thank you for reading! 💜

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Chronic illness · Hope · mental health

Pause For Mental Health

I’m thinking about mental health today. (I’m almost always thinking about mental health.) Anyway, I am almost certain that I have two separate identities: the one that adapts to fight illness, and the innate one.

The Fighter.

The Fighter lacks humor when anxious. Gets jumpy and clings to routine with ferocity. This identity worships efficiency. Stability.

The Fighter connects to specific music, listening on repeat, soothing and ruminating. When depressed, somehow the humor switch flicks and everything can be made funny!


I can be pretty goofy (understatement). I will always prefer deep, insightful discussions to small talk. (A curious question-asker!)

I care deeply, which is especially difficult when others don’t see that I care. Sensitive people can be strong. I tend to subvert expectations because society’s rules don’t make sense to me.

What does make sense? Being authentic. I never want to hide myself away. That’s why I talk about mental health. I’m a very hopeful person. Always, always trying for better.


Another entity in my life is Time. When illness flares, time is there too, amplifying loneliness, warping perspectives, until thoughts last decades and hope falls off the edge of the earth. (Wow. That’s dramatic!)

Where did I go?

I’m likely at home, on my couch. I’ve managed to wake, shower, dress, eat and drink. I’ll boot up the PC and take care of work emails. Breathe in, hold, breathe out.

I’m there but not there. It’s The Fighter, taking charge of routine. We’ve got this down to a science. Priorities lined up in a pretty row. Fun podcasts lined up to distract me from those thoughts while I shuffle through mundane tasks.

In the bathroom mirror, I still exist. But personality is a nonissue. We focus on immediate needs, water-drinking, email answering. I am here. (But not really.)


I have attained many strengths because of The Fighter. The stoic face I wear to the doctor’s office, for example. I like to think my innate strengths transfer, too, blending identities. Open and stoic. Strong and vulnerable.

I am introverted, but I hate when mental health takes relationships fully offline. Robyn is out of office, please direct all inquiries elsewhere. The Fighter has never been much into socializing. And I despair. Will friends wait for me?

I constantly apologize for The Fighter. How could anyone be expected to understand? I don’t even understand myself! But I am here, under it all. The anxiety. The stress. The discouragement. The coping mechanisms. The exhaustion.

Robyn The Fighter

Hi. I am here. I battle and I laugh, I nerd out over books and tv shows. And I love my routine!

I love traveling and trying new foods. Making lists and making the same meals. Coffee and Cheerios. Green tea and dark chocolate. Listening to rock music for hours.

I’m the friend who cares about your stresses and emotions, hopes and passions! I never gossip. Give me a break because I’m processing a lot. But I have so much to give.

Please remember me when I am silent. I haven’t forgotten anyone. My life is just on survival mode. Soon, we’ll unpause. We’ll go for a walk, drink coffee, play a board game! When we do, you might see two identities – both survivors, both hilarious, both kind and caring.

That’s where I hope to be. 🖤

Books · Love · Review

Book Love

Books I love, books about love, and good feels for February! ❤️❤️❤️

Reading can be more comforting than a hot, sweet mug of coffee. A few select books may even be chocolate-level. I’ll submit these three for your consideration!

Let’s Talk About Love

Let’s Talk About Love – Claire Kann

I learned so much about love from this genius novel. Claire Kann nails it, from the introduction (Alice getting dumped) through the growing pains, to a beautiful realization (spoiler alert, it’s about love)!

This is not a spoiler: Alice is asexual. She’s not sexually attracted to anyone. It’s fine. What’s not fine? Pretty much everything else. She can’t academically please her parents. Or keep up with her engaged BFFs. Alice should just hide from the world. Enter Takumi. Her new coworker at the library is cute, caring, and impossible to hide from…perfect. 🖤🖤🖤

Tell Me Three Things

Tell Me Three Things – Julie Buxbaum

This YA Contemporary gem has ‘You’ve Got Mail’ vibes. What could be better? Just when Jessie seems stranded in crunchy California amidst designer-toting pre-celebs, two things happen. 1) She gets a job at a bookshop. 2) An anonymous student emails her with advice on how to survive their ritzy, cliquey school.

Jessie is already a survivor. She lost a version of her father when Mom died. When Dad suddenly remarries, moving her across the country, she must survive without her childhood BFF, Scarlett. Will texting with Scar (and a random stranger) be enough to keep Jessie Holmes from falling off the face of the earth? 💔💔💔

Stop My Bleeding Heart

Stop My Bleeding Heart – Victoria Anders

Dramatic title, dramatic tale! I’ll set the scene: Teenage Jade Diamond may as well be Snow White. She’s got the insidious stepmother. She’s an orphan taking refuge with seven sassy foster brothers. Who doesn’t adore a Found Family? ❤️❤️❤️

While living on her aunt’s farm, Jade tries to grieve her father while numbly navigating a new high school. She doesn’t count on meeting cute, artsy and athletic boys who could stop her heart. An intriguing romantic plot ensues!


Happily Ever Maybe?

So, we have 1) A break-up, 2) Loss of a parent, 3) Loss of a parent under mysterious circumstances – take your pick!

All three of these authors immerse me in humor, deep emotion, and suspense. That’s why I have re-read them again and again. Sweet, yet rich. Soothing to the soul.

Happy love month! ❤️

(I wish you chocolates and happiness!)

Books · reading · Review

My Year In Books 2022

During my reading journey, books become part of me in many ways. A very difficult year is ending. Join me as I recall the joys of discovery – of fantasy and comaraderie – with this celebratory blog post!

New Favorites Discovered

I cannot physically hold them, but these hold space in my heart! #Sappy #NotSorry

‘It wasn’t one simple thing. It was more like a billion tiny things all pulling together to form one giant tidal wave of stress.’

Radio Silence, A Oseman

Radio Silence is a critical fiction about the pressures of academia and the mental health and societal ramifications to youths. Pressing children to shed individuality, British grammar schools are shown to glamorize one ultimate goal despite inequitable advantages. Characters Frances, Aled, Daniel and Cerys are just a few students struggling to survive until university.

Eleanor & Park is a take on teen romance, angst, and the powerful emotions that accompany feeling rejected, disconnected, and vulnerable. Can high school torture bond these two incompatible misfits?

Magnus Chase is still my favorite character of 2022! I love his snarky face. No found family (living or dead) will ever surpass Magnus, Blitzen, Hearthstone, Sam and floor 19. #FightMe

In my Mid-Year Book Freak Out I already told you all about Fangirl and Magnus! I had BIG feelings about the mental health portrayal in Turtles. Get A Life, Chloe Brown helped me address the reality of living with chronic pain. Sanditon also got it’s own post, Austen-ish.


Genre of the Year

If I count re-reads, I read 50% YA Fantasy in 2022.

(Rick Riordan’s Percy Jackson series and Heroes of Olympus series bring me continuous joy!)

I also needed YA Contemporary books to make it through. One genre was my escape, the other, my inspiration!

YA Fantasy 22/44

YA Contemporary 15/44

Clearly, I am obsessed with demigod life:

A Riordanverse Playlist

Re-reads of 2022: Percy Jackson and the Olympians, R Riordan


Top Recommendation

Murder In Westminster (A Riveting Regency Historical Mystery) by Vanessa Riley

I took my time reading this book! It was vivid, like a quality TV series. I wanted to extend the suspense by slowly reading a couple chapters at a time. The mystery – absorbing! The characters – intriguing!

The regency era setting, with more diversity of background AND perspective than I am used to reading, is rich and entertaining. The gowns, the rainy London streets, the carriages… I’m here for it all!

The fight for abolition – the fear and prejudice – is touched on so very delicately. I trust Vanessa Riley to weave history into fiction in a powerful, relevent way.

Why read future sequels? Well, firstly there’s Abigail’s inherited gift that plagues her. Could this gift be useful after all? And, I love to see an intelligent, qualified woman acknowledged!

‘My mother would say a woman builds or destroys her own house.’

Murder In Westminster, V Riley


Most Re-Readable

Stay Gold by Tobly McSmith

Pony is a main character. Like, actually. It is the first day at a new high school, and his film-loving brain is already casting him in a teen movie! Pranks – check. Jocks – check. Cheerleaders – check. A clean slate – TBD.

See, Pony is trans and beginning the year in “stealth mode”. It’s going to be so much easier – and so much harder – to navigate judgmental teen culture as himself.

‘Cue dramatic music. New Kid is frozen in place on the curb. He made it through the parking lot but is now stuck. Imaginary cameras fly in to capture his face…’

Stay Gold, T McSmith


Book Club Reads

Books about books, classics and philosophical discussion! #BookObsessed

  • The Jane Austen Society – N Jenner
  • Fathers and Sons – I Turgenev
  • The Midnight Library – M Haig
  • Frankenstein – M Shelley

This year, we read four very different yet enjoyable novels. TJAS allowed us to fangirl over Austen together! F&S was a thoughtful narrative contrasting generational beliefs in 19th century Russia. Frankenstein was very sad, but philosophical. The Midnight Library gifted me a new perspective of Depression and hope.


I Finally Read…

Dating Makes Perfect – P Dunn (ya contemporary)

Dating drama! Plus, very loyal sisters, Thai American families, and one mortal enemy.

Winnie’s humiliation is about to be orchestrated by her own mother. Her enemy has front row seats. Can their relationship survive this onslaught, or will they become (ew) friends? An entertaining writing style, with realistic and humorous perspectives!


Series To Continue

  • The Mortal Instruments – C Clare (3/6)
  • Charlotte Holmes – B Cavallard (1/4)
  • The Kane Chronicles – R Riordan (2/3)

I recently binged City Of Bones, City Of Ashes, and City Of Glass. There are three more in the series. On one hand, I don’t love the repetitive writing style. On the other hand, these warrior children, I wanna see them save the world!! Does Clary make me wanna scream? Yes! But… more story, please.

Once I got over A Study In Charlotte being in a boy’s POV, I liked it! Both Charlotte Holmes and James Watson are teen descendants of the famed investigative duo. (Of course, Watson is the narrator.) They meet at college where they are framed for murder. Can Jamie and Charlotte trust each other when the world seems out to get them?


Series Completed

The Tethering series by M O’Russell (4/4)

Jacob comes into a secret power, a new family, and a political struggle that will decide the fate of a magical world. I could not stop reading! (The Tethering, The Siren’s Realm, The Dragon Unbound, The Blood Heir)

Magnus Chase and the Gods of Asgard by Rick Riordan (3/3)

Magnus has been living on the street a while when he realizes someone is looking for him. Unfortunately, his fate (or stupidity) leads to a deathly fall, violent new associates, and a prophecy. Worst death ever. (Sword of Summer, Hammer of Thor, Ship of the Dead)


New Books On My Shelf

(This is a non-literal shelf, folks! Still, it’s exciting to see so much variety ahead of me in the new year!)

  • Hey, Brown Girl – J Harden (ya contemporary)
  • Greyboy – C Brown (non-fiction)
  • Landline – Rainbow Rowell (contemporary fiction)
  • A Duke, A Lady, and a Baby – V Riley (historical, mystery)
  • The Forty Elephants – E Bledsoe (historical, crime)
  • A Room Of One’s Own – V Woolf (feminist fiction)
  • The Spectacular – Z Whittall (feminist fiction)
  • Max and the Multiverse – Z Wheeler (sci-fi)
  • Lizard Music – D Pinkwater (middle grade, magical realism)
  • The Shepherd and the Horned Girl – B Bright (ya fantasy)
  • The Humans – M Haig (sci-fi)
  • My Famous Brain – D Wald (psychological fiction)
  • Lost Connections – J Hari (non-fiction, mental health)


And, finally, blog features to come in 2023:

  • ‘Own Voices’ – What I Want To See
  • The Jane Austen Book Club (Comparing the book to the movie)
  • Re-reading my childhood favorites

Happy reading! 💜 ~ Ro

Books · music · Percy Jackson

Secret Favorite Songs Of Our Favorite Demigods

A Riordanverse Playlist

My two greatest obsessions of 2022 have been music and Percy Jackson! What is my latest nerdy project?

(Secret) Favorite Albums!

I decided to out these warrior kids for their secret tracks! (Not necessarily guilty pleasures, but the songs they aren’t exactly proud to call favorites.) What exactly is the best music for monster-hunting?

Thalia Grace

Artemis provides endless music selections to her hunters! Yes, Thalia is punk. No, she doesn’t choose 3 Doors Down. She absolutely does not hum along to ‘Let Me Be Myself‘ or ‘Runaway‘. How dare you.


Reyna Avila Ramírez-Arrellano listens to…

Taylor Swift. Fearless. This is her me time. Get out.


Jason Grace listens to…

The Killers. Hot Fuss. Jason has memorized ‘Somebody Told Me‘. It plays on repeat in his head while he tries to empty his brain of stressful thoughts. There are so many.

(‘Another head aches’, indeed! Sorry, Jason!)


Frank Zhang listens to…

I Am…Sasha Fierce. Big emotions require Beyoncé! If you ask him, he will just blush and glare. Confidence-building is a process, okay?


Hazel Levesque

Leo once joked that children of Hades only like Emo music. Percy laughingly suggested “Death Cab For Cutie“. Frank found the music for her and, well, Hazel doesn’t want to admit she loved it.

(Ask Annabeth about an actual death cab – it’s a funny story!)


Annabeth Chase

Black Eyed Peas (The E.N.D.) songs take up most of Annabeth’s study playlist. Scientifically proven for demigod success!

(A literal party could not stop Annabeth when she’s hyperfocused on an idea.)


Percy Jackson

A school roommate left behind their Cake CD, ‘Pressure Chief‘, and Percy got to love the weird lyrics and slow-pop melodies.

(But, if Thalia asks, Green Day is The Best and Thalia Rulez!)


Nico Di Angelo

Nico doesn’t mind angst. But… Make Believe does not sound as angsty as these lyrics may seem! It’s perfect to cry a while or to sit in gloomy silence. (Future Nico probably graduates to ‘The Angel And The One‘. And ‘Hero‘. Feel better, Nico!)


Will Solace

Will’s secret rebellion is listening to Tokyo Police Club ‘Smith EP’ with his earbuds in while organizing the med bay. TPC is on Apollo’s list of Strictly Not Approved artists.

We support micro-rebellions!


Piper Mclean

Piper’s guilty pleasure is Britney Spears. She resisted pop music for years. Recently, the ‘Free Britney movement’ led to self-reflection. She decided patriarchy and ableism can suck it, and ‘Blackout‘ is feminist and genius!


Leo Valdez

Leo doesn’t really think about music. (Please don’t judge!) He’s been known to listen to his favorite movie soundtracks, like Transformers!

(He’s the one to talk to if you want your music to blast the loudest! Just remember to specify decibel preference.)


Can you imagine these kids on the Argo II chilling with headphones on? Or, at Camp Half-Blood or in New Rome? Hope you enjoyed snooping with me! I’m sure the demigods don’t mind… Anyway, we all have secret favorites! What’s yours and why?

Stay warm, stay safe, feel loved this winter!

Another Percy Jackson-themed playlist

Books · mental health · Review

Get A Life, Chloe Brown! A Review

Today, I escaped my comfort zone along with brave Chloe Brown.

I have no regrets.

A hilarious  and inclusive, brave and hopeful fiction!

Have I reviewed a rom-com yet? I haven’t? Well, I am picky about them. The key ingredients for me are: sassy characters, an inclusive message, a hopeful conclusion – and, of course, romance tropes! (Hmm, perhaps the Grumpy Sunshine trope?) 😊

Get a Life, Chloe Brown by Talia Hibbert

After a near death experience, cautious Chloe Brown decides to push her boundaries and makes a list of exciting adventures, sort of a bucket list, except she calls it her Get A Life list. Its all things she’s missed out on over the years while dealing with chronic pain.

(Synopsis from The Book Girl Club Podcast)

Chloe gets a new apartment, independent from her family – check! Her building’s superintendent, Redford “Red” Morgan, is tattooed, sweet, and does not like Chloe. That is, until he surprisingly agrees to help with a few items on her ‘Get A Life’ list. Red is a secret artist, getting back into painting after a traumatic relationship.

‘If she died tomorrow she now knew she’d have no regrets.’

Tropes I love!

This romantic adventure provides almost every sugary trope you might crave! Awkward miscommunication, reminiscent of a Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan film, saturates each chapter. Every revellation between Chloe and Red is electric! 😆

Talia Hibbert’s achievement here is a quality rom-com full of sass and hilarity, and a main character with a disability. Disability, mental health, and trauma are not the main focus. Therapy is not the plot. Ill health is not the villain.

Red and Chloe both have good reason to fear of rejection. They have even deeper reasons to overcome that fear. After all, getting a life means taking risks!

I struggle with taking risks, as Chloe does, having lost things due to illness. It can become very difficult to trust good things. There’s strength in surviving and hope in taking first steps. 🌈

Inclusivity means writing characters with real experience outside the norm (whatever normal is). This is brave writing. This is not a mere fun read to pick up at an airport! (Although it is so fun!)

‘“Excuse me, universe,” she whispered to the kitchen floor. “When you almost murdered me today—which was rather brutal, by the way, but I can respect that—were you trying to tell me something?” The universe, very enigmatically, did not respond.’

Sassy Characters

Pay close attention. Watch how Red’s family, friends and acquaintances rejoice in his authentic nurturing and kind personality. His masculinity is beautiful – unapologetic and pretty – and very unlike the male love interests we expect to read.

Watch how Chloe respects Red, treating him like a human being (not just a sexual being). Chloe models respect for herself and others, giving a strong feminist impression. (Feminist meaning equality between men and women.) This is so rare. Even YA books tend to write women/girls romantically or sexually exploiting men/boys as a type of performative feminism. This author clearly believes readers can handle men with emotions – I agree!

I’m not saying Chloe is perfect. (Perfect female characters are misogynistic and cliche.) She makes mistakes, says terrible things, and apologizes like the imperfect human she is. Her actions are inseparably feminist and authentic. Watch how Chloe is not clambering to fix Red, nor he to rescue her. 🙌

‘I can cook. And, right now, you can’t. So I’m doing it for you because that’s how people should behave; they fill in each other’s gaps.’

A Hopeful Message

When I say that this novel makes me feel seen, it is because I have been craving a story that doesn’t solve every pain (unrealistically) by the end credits. When I say this novel leaves me hopeful, it’s because we need as many characters who diverge from stereotypes as possible!

We need Reds and Chloes. Women who are strong, not in a manly way. Men who are nurturing, not in a womanly way. Disabilities that are not plot points to overcome. We need characters knowing better and doing better on the page, modeling true inclusivity.

I take the themes in this book, like compassion, respect and dignity, very personally. I live with chronic health issues. I have felt similar pain to Chloe (emotional, not just physical) and it is devastating. 😭

‘Bravery wasn’t an identity, so much as a choice.‘

We Need More Books!

Content warning: There are sexually explicit descriptions (which means there are expletives used throughout). There is also mention of abuse.

I didn’t read this book when it was first released due to the adult themes. But, there are so few inclusive stories with disabled characters that I don’t feel like I can be picky. When I find wonderful books without explicit language and sexual content, I will share and review them, too! 👍

Let’s support the voices of disabled and marginalized authors! Show the publishing companies we absolutely want more of this. I greatly admire Talia Hibbert for sharing part of herself in this novel. I may even check out the others in her ‘Brown Sisters’ Trilogy!

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Depression · mental health · Poetry

A Poem Called Sometimes

It’s okay to be not okay. You know? It’s okay if all I can blog now is this old poem.

You know what? I am brave to have told the important people in my life that I am struggling. I know life gets better – past experience has proven that. Sitting with my pain, I remind myself: this is valid. I am valid. I feel this way. I am surviving this.


Sometimes muscles are stone
Clothes binding limbs
Denim chafing skin

Sometimes joints inflame
Knuckles and knees
Craving release

Sometimes the mind numbs
Inert yet aware
Burning to care

A deadened doll form
Lifelike eyes pretend sleep
Pain is more than skin-deep.


I call this an “old poem” because it is about my experience as a teenager, not knowing what’s wrong with me. Sensory overload and anxiety and constant pain being my normal.

Do you feel like mental health is impossible to talk about? Me too, sometimes. Even if there are awareness days, even if the media is normalizing therapy. . . health is always a struggle. And mental health is usually the first sacrifice when times get tough.

One more time, it’s okay to be not okay.

Take care! ❤️

Please do not use my poem without permission.

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Note: If you need emergency support, reach out to a helpline immediately.

Anxiety · Books · Depression · Hope · mental health · Review

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

What does one do in ‘The Midnight Library’? Nora Seed might be the first person ever to find out!

Background: yellow fading to green fading to blue. Center: Book cover shown is The Midnight Library by Matt Haig. Below, white text reads, A Review (Reviewing Myself, Too)

This morning, I am listening to (loud) music. Weezer’s new album (SZNZ: Autumn). I’m taking a few moments in time to feel deep gratitide for Lucy and Mon, who read ‘The Midnight Library’ with me. What a journey!

Now that we're together
We're gonna sing you a song
Let these steel strings
Take you home to me
And let yourself be soothed
By the sound of drums
Climb down the stairs and
out the door
'Til your feet are on the earth
- The Sound Of Drums (2022)

Content warning: this post references mental health topics, indirectly (suicide) and directly (depression and anxiety). Take care.

Nora Seed

The first thing you need to know about Nora Seed is she studied philosophy. Yeah. I can relate–I’m a deep thinker, too. It can be destructive. Secondly, she is quite lonely. And thirdly, she is creative. She used to write songs and play keyboard in a band. She used to want to write a novel. She used to imagine a lot of things.

Image credit: Chris Coady,

So, what does Nora do in The Midnight Library?

1. Listen

Nora has been listening, and the signs are telling her the world is better off without her. It’s sad, but she’s accepting it today.

She wakes up from a sad bottle of wine to a metaphysically impossible library, stuck interminably at midnight.

Her childhood librarian (and friend) Mrs. Elm introduces Nora to a curated collection of lives, pretty on display in rows and rows. You can have any of them, she promises. Start with one.

Will Nora listen to these alternate lives? What will she learn from the many paths not taken?

‘There are more possible ways to play a game of chess than the amount of atoms in the observable universe.’ -The Midnight Library

I listen.

I am intrigued by the idea of exploring a different major life choice! What if? What if we chose differently? Took a risk? Moved bravely to another country? Or invested our precious time differently? Studied writing? Learned a language? I’m listening, Matt Haig.

2. Regret

I don’t believe in regret. There’s no editing out the good and bad from the results. This is life. It’s a mess of mistakes and question marks. We’ll never know why some paths fell away. I see the incomparable view from the peak and I regret none of the thorn slashes, aching muscles or uncertainty.

Take a look at where you
started from
And where you are today
You climbed mountains
Swam oceans
You got knocked down
And kept goin'
- A Little Bit Of Love (2022)

Nora’s regret

Second-guessing has become Nora Seed’s favorite passtime. What could she have done to not lose her brother’s love? She should have moved to Australia with Izzy as she’d once planned. She should have gone through with her wedding. Should, should, should. Not once does she think, what can I do to change this? And I understand. She forgets how powerful choice can be.

‘Sometimes if we fill that lack with something else the original want disappears entirely. Maybe you have a lack problem rather than a want problem. Maybe there is a life that you really want to live.’ -The Midnight Library

3. Choose

Nora must choose a book from The Library and give it a fair chance. Will it improve on her life? Replace it? Will it replace her with a better version of Nora Seed?

Yeah, I'm gonna be 
somebody else
Be somebody else
The opposite of me
- The Opposite Of Me (2022)

I choose.

When I choose a book to read, it’s an opportunity and a sacrifice. Time spent reading is time away from my everyday life. It’s a chance to glean wisdom, I suppose. Or to discover joy that I can then share with others!

4. Be inspired

Nora shares music with newly inspired folks as they buy their first guitar. For those who refresh their passion buying guitar picks and sheet music, she distributes potential joy. It’s just a dull job at a music shop.

When Nora examines her regrets, she notices a theme: abandoned inspiration. Why had she decided not to aim high? Olympic swimming, writing, performing with her band, pursuing glaciology (and saving the earth from global warming)- what had become of all her passion? Could she find it again and follow through?

‘To be part of nature was to be part of the will to live.’ -The Midnight Library

My inspiration.

Music sculpts new structures from my mutable essence. When someone else is vulnerable, talented, genius and generous… sharing in the product overwhelms me with joy. It’s not a job or hobby for me. Actually, it’s bigger than me.

5. Hope

Lately, I find hope in my past because the future seems uncertain. I’m privileged, I know. I get paid to work with people I care about. I live with my favorite person in the world. I’m also living with black ropes constraining my movement. Anxiety. Ropes that say, “can’t, shouldn’t, and what if it hurts?”

Nora’s hope.

Nora has depression. “Everyone has mental health”, she reminds her boss. But she loses her job. That’s when the path forward begins to disintegrate. What is her future? What is she good for? And truly, depression has stolen the answer from her. Her memories have warped so she can’t see how much she has survived and achieved- no, not achieved- offered to the world! The music and friendship, talent and kindness.

Corrosion in the wires 
Makes it hard for me to understand
Part of me is curious, part of me
is too afraid to ask
- What Happens After You (2022)

My Review

In the space between seconds in time, Nora has the unheard of option to change everything. The question is, how will this choice affect Nora’s original self? What is she truly leaving behind in the unemployed, fiancée-less, feline-less, friendless woman, besides regret?

Matt Haig leads readers by the hand through a surreal and existential challenge. Mental health is portrayed without many clinical terms, instead feeling out truth and testing lies. ‘The Midnight Library’ is difficult at times. The constant shift from life to life, reality to reality, breaks life apart to build it up again. It feels breathless and dizzying. It feels revolutionary, as we face Nora’s fears and somehow survive.

My friends and I may be divided across the world, but our book club is a source of joy and inspiration. We are branching out from Jane Austen and other classics, this time to share in surrealism. I’m so grateful to have delved into ‘The Midnight Library’ with my two reading pals.

We often struggle and we suffer because life hurts. Yet we persevere. We have built upon our shared love of reading! What is life for if not to share? Books, music, time, truth – we share it all, because that’s what living is. That is my lesson from ‘The Midnight Library’.

Feeding on the fire
Shattering those iron bars
Through the sky
like shooting stars
Wild at Heart
You got me wild at heart
- Wild At Heart (2022)

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Books · Jane Austen · Review

Jane Austen(ish)

Jane Austen is sarcastic observations and simple truths! She is banter and wit. Seething silences and eloquent letters.

I read Sanditon this summer!

This is a big deal to me. Until now, I never wanted to read ‘Sanditon’, a novel left incomplete following Austen’s death. It was finished by Anne Telscombe and published in 1975. In July 2022, I finally read it. I was so nervous.

Those who tell their own story, you know, must be listened to with caution. – Mr. Parker

An open mind was key, of course, but I could not resist analyzing the style. Would it be worthy? Would it be biting? Would it be Austen? It was…delicious! I laughed, I sighed, I opened up my heart to heroine Charlotte Heywood.


By Jane Austen and Another Lady

Tagline: Welcome to Sanditon – a society of secret schemers!

Description: When new aquaintances recruit Charlotte Heywood to play guest at a quaint seaside resort, she observes a range of eccentricities and foibles. Everyone seems to have a secret. In such a romantic setting, can she remain reasonable?

The Voice Of Reason

Very few of us lack superficial faults and we must rely on each other’s kindness to overlook them.

– Charlotte Heywood

Charlotte Heywood is a reasonable main character. Like Elinor Dashwood (Sense and Sensibility) or Anne Elliot (Persuasion) before her, Charlotte’s narration relects superior self-command.

What is her home life? We have no idea, really! Charlotte is placed among strangers, which sets Sanditon apart from Austen’s family-centric narratives.

Elinor may behave composedly, Anne may hide her passion, but Charlotte just aims to relax! An honest soul, she herself has nothing to hide. She is certainly not expecting to uncover shocking secrets.

The Assertive Woman

Although 19th century gender roles must have been rigid, these characters rise above! Jane Austen doesn’t just subvert gender stereotypes, she laughs at them!

Charlotte may be the least interested in marriage of all Austen’s heroines! She’s happy on vacation. I enjoyed her willingness to meet new people, try new activities, and to behave pleasantly overall.

Oh! You may be sure Sidney never has less than four pots on the boil, three irons in the fire and as many sticks as he can find heaped into it as well.

– Reginald Catton

A Soft Hero

In Sidney Parker, we meet a social expert. He reminds me of Emma Woodhouse, likeable, entertaining, and always contriving at happy outcomes!

The stereotypical hero is rooted in his own interests, whereas Sidney busily works for the sake of others. His true intentions are concealed by his grace and enthusiasm.

Sidney is most certainly a new experience for Charlotte. Will the strong mind of Charlotte Heywood welcome Sidney’s happy manipulations?

Are you sure that’s Austen?

It’s so weird to read Sanditon years after reading Austen’s six completed novels. These characters are so new! And yet, there are familiar elements. A hypochondriac, a rattle, and where would an Austen plot be without those meddling old folks?

And if we could but get a young heiress to Sanditon! But heiresses are monstrous scarce! – Lady Denham

My mind jumps to ‘Emma’ again when I consider that Mr. Thomas Parker could be sweet Mr. Weston’s doppelgänger! He is hopeful and hospitable to a fault. Too, Clara Brereton’s distracted timidity mirrors Jane Fairfax.

Despite similarities, I found myself reading the final chapters with no idea what to expect! Does this mean this other author failed? Definitely not! Unpredictability is a key element in all Austen novels.

Think of Lucy Steele, General Tilney, or even Lady Catherine! Each seemed benign…at first. Sanditon’s conclusion unveils truly Austen-worthy characters: flawed, confused, and redeemingly sweet.

Have you read Sanditon? Which version? Did you hate it? Love it?

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Thank you for reading! 💜

friendship · music · Poetry

About Friendship

For International Friendship Day, here is a hard-earned life lesson! And, to those who love the real me: thank you.

My Next Smile

I liked the me I was
When I was with you
You weren't yourself so
I guess it wasn't true

I wonder if most of life
Is misdirection
As we learn more of love
Through false connection

The truth about the game is
No matter how fun
Play all the right cards
Some hands can't be won

Retracing our pathways
I watch it all end
Here is my lesson:
To be my own friend

I still jump in freely
My heart on the line
Now you've flown away
My next smile is mine

Please do not use my poem without my permission. Thank you.

Lots of people are mistaken about friendship. I know, because I’m one of them. Because I thought to be a good friend was to gain a good friend.

Externally, friendship can be anything. I thought it was everything: kindness, common interests, attentiveness and generosity. Unconditional acceptance, perhaps. Love.

We learn to value love for love’s sake. Friendship for friendship’s sake. But even romantic relationships are not unconditionally loving, nor kind. Who teaches us what each is truly made of?

Externally, friendship may be many things. Lately, I suspect that a friendship can be defined by one thing. One internal requirement. I want to be honest with you; You want to be honest with me.

That’s it.

What lesson do you take away from My Next Smile?

Enjoy International Friendship Day! 💜🎶

Isolation · mental health · Poetry

The Box

Hello, children. Are you ready for a scary story? It is called ‘The Box’.

The Box

I am looking at a box.
I must move this box.

The surrounding silence breathes its barren understanding of how I deeply, painfully, desperately need to leave. Leave this hallway, this house, this emptiness.

The need. It’s all focused in my arms. I slide my fingertips, allowing them to settle along the cardboard edges. Now I’m straightening my shoulders. I’m breathing from my belly and bracing my stance, knowing it must be done now. No one remains to say ‘stay’ or to urge, ‘go!’
There is only me and this box. And the heaviness threatening to collapse me if I fail to take action.

So I palm the solid surface of the hallway table. It's the last object in existence, besides me...and the box. My fingertips nestle into either side of the box, exploring the edge. There is give, only slightly, at the base. The box itself is nothing to its vital contents. The resolute solidity is a reminder that I myself must be resolved in the moment I take on its weight. I will master this box, and in doing so, preserve the residue of my existence. All that results from this moment will rest inevitably on these shoulders.


I stop thinking. I move with the fire of decision and of need, shoulders bearing, arms seizing, grasp firm. I am escaping loneliness; the failures of my past. I obtain the doorway, that opening into elsewhere. Quickly felt, the weight numbs my fingers, tries my back, heavier than any thing could have a right to be. A step or two more and I lock up; I falter. Desperately, I am clasping fingers, the sides of my arms straining toward one another, my stem stretching upward.


I can’t have failed. Yes, my grip breaks. My frame buckles. I stumble. Before I can wish to retain my load from an uncontrolled tumble, it rests immutable on the ground. Bones awaken to a sudden sharpness and despair. It has crushed down on my foot.


I took this on in folly, in my hubris. To resist nothingness, I had made out this hopeless act to be everything. Yet here I stand, unmoving for pain and anger at my own mistake. For bearing my load and failing had always been my greatest fear. Yet I made myself try. I should have known action alone could not save me from myself. I simply am, devoid of purpose in a disburdened home.

I alone remain.
And I own the blame.
Because I made myself and I put myself in a box.

The end.


Why ‘The Box’? One day I was mesmerized by a thought: What would it be like if a person insisted on staying the same in every way while the whole world changed around them?

This person embodies the ‘mid-life crisis’. Their nest is empty, their relationships dissolved. Their self-image is all that remains. They manifest the intangible concept of Self as they are ejected from their idealized life.

The question I am left with is when did this box become so important? Was it always a cardboard box, or did it begin as a childhood toy chest? Did it grow to the size of their first apartment? Their first house, purchased with their new spouse, filled with cute memories and modern furniture? Hmm…


Will this happen to me one day? Is my identity built on an ideal (like my home, or my relationship, or my job)? Is it possible not to become boxed in? Can anyone avoid that shrinking, unnatural, tragic metaphorical box?

The Box is a fear of freedom. I’m reminded of how I cried watching Elsa sing ‘Let It Go’ in the theatres. Something broke inside me – or, probably, it had always been broken, just stored away and forgotten. So it’s not just ice queens and empty-nesters who need this reminder. Free yourself.

Thanks for reading! 💙

Books · reading · Review

Mid-Year Book Freak Out (2022)

2022 is the year of Percy Jackson! Production has begun for the PJO Disney+ series. The ‘Riordanverse’ is alive with anticipation. But, wait! I promise not to only blog about that! I really, really believe I can talk about other books, too. 😅

*Questions altered from last year’s tag!

Best book you’ve read so far in 2022

Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell

I found this sweet gem while looking for a funny, honest, relatable story! What could be more relatable to a fangirl like myself than Cath, an anxious young woman with trust issues and an obsession with fictional characters that exceeds all else?

Like a ninja, Cath slips into advanced writing classes. Also like a ninja, she manages to avoid making new friends – especially with her surly college roommate. Oh well, she has thousands of people depending on her to post Simon Snow fan fiction! No doubt Cath’s new peers would judge her for this, as does her twin, Ren. Or, is she also a ninja at hiding from the truth?

Favorite new (to me) author

Rainbow Rowell

How excellent is this? I’m almost wordless. ‘Fangirl’ is a YA novel about transitioning to college and independence. Cath, a creative, anxious introvert, is my new best friend. Rainbow is my new idol! She writes with an adoration for language! She writes worlds within worlds. Super-imposed realities.

I’m expecting to stay in a contemporary YA mood for a few more weeks…maybe months. Library audiobooks FTW! After Fangirl, I’m waiting on Eleanor & Park, then Carry On and the rest of the Simon Snow series! 😆

Newest favorite character

Magnus Chase

Magnus lives life in heightened awareness of dangers to his soft heart. His senses are just different to those of others. He’s deeply empathetic. Once Magnus Chase is your friend you will never feel alone.

This is the first character in the Riordanverse I deeply identify with, surprisingly enough. He’s a blonde male teen, sure, but who cares? Maybe I’m also a child of a Norse god! ☺️

Best sequel you’ve read so far in 2022

The Ship of the Dead (Magnus Chase and the Gods of Asgard #3)

Ahhhhh! I keep going back to read favorite moments! So many epic moments are hilarious while also plumbing the depths of emotion. I love everyone. What are side characters? Character growth for everyone!

Too, the worlds never disappoint! Riordan invites us into worlds of Valkyries, Elves, Dwarfs, Giants, and those awkward humans. Don’t forget the pop culture references. Thor is not the Thor of Marvel movies, and is Taylor Swift human or elf?! 😲

Book that made you happy

The Son of Neptune (Heroes of Olympus #2)

Three of a kind, these questers bring me joy! First, there’s Percy. He’s a sassy hero, even when out of his element. Frank Zhang and Hazel Levesque lead the way to Alaska. They are the two softest, squishiest cuties of Camp Jupiter – but powerful enough to impress Percy. Do not underestimate!

Biggest surprise

The Mark Of Athena (Heroes of Olympus #3)

I didn’t realize before how much of this series is written around romantic attachments! It’s clear to me now why the relationships seem stunted. Is any conflict resolved, really? Or am I just told that it is?

Don’t worry, I still love Percabeth. I just wish that the switching between POVs was more purposeful. And can we not with love triangles ever again? 😬

Biggest disappointment

The House Of Hades (Heroes of Olympus #4)

Trauma-driven character development is disappointing. I’ve heard it said that a certain side character’s *traumatic experience* should have been written from their own POV. From another POV, the narrative came across exploitive at worse, pointless at best. This series is lacking that friendship and teamwork that Riordan developed gradually throughout Percy Jackson and the Olympians.

Favorite fictional friendship*

Aza Holmes and Daisy

These two. Daisy surprised me by showing up for Aza in ways that indicate maturity and emotional intelligence. I appreciated the security of their friendship, even while tough issues (like finances and health) challenged their bond. Also, ‘Holmsey’ is the sweetest nickname!

Book that made you cry

Solitaire by Alice Oseman

Solitaire played at cute then gutted me with jabs of emotion. The pacing is real strange. There’s a lot left unresolved.

But the mysterious entity ‘Solitaire’ is genuinely my favorite thing! Solitaire is breeding rebellion using flashes of music and tech sabotage. It’s stupid. That’s not how people communicate – or, wait, is it? Whoever Solitaire is, they’re communicating the way they know how and it’s futile. I. Feel. This. 😭

It was depressing. Maybe don’t read it if you’re already in a crisis, okay? #selfcare

Best Audiobook Production*

Simon Vs The Homo Sapien Agenda by Becky Abertalli

Production value 10/10! Simon is funny, kind and earnest – as is the performance of this sweet teen romance. It’s impossible not to relate as a former teenager who had to deal with cliques and hormones and family drama. And actual drama. #theatrenerds

It’s interesting to read a teen drama where the main character is aware of their own privilege, actively struggling to connect. The arc follows Simon as a friend/son/brother becoming a kinder and more self-accepting person (humor intact!)

Simon’s voice is unique. Even if he swears a lot (which I usually hate), I still wish the heroes in Heroes Of Olympus felt more like this.

Didn’t live up to the hype*

The Red Pyramid (The Kane Chronicles #1) by Rick Riordan

This is now the only series in the Riordanverse I’ve not yet read. It’s been slow going, even though I love Ancient Egypt stuff and I had just enjoyed Moon Knight! Maybe book 2 gets better. I just keep forgetting about Carter and Sadie. Sigh. But I won’t give up on them.

New release you haven’t read yet, but want to read

Book Lovers by Emily Henry (Published May 2022)

It would be a meet-cute if not for the fact that they’ve met many times and it’s never been cute. If Nora knows she’s not an ideal heroine, Charlie knows he’s no hero, but as they are thrown together again and again—in a series of coincidences no editor worth their salt would allow—what they discover might just unravel the carefully crafted stories they’ve written about themselves.

From Goodreads, book description – Book Lovers, Emily Henry

Could this read any cuter? If I could pour it directly into my brain I would. (And it’s not even YA.)

Favorite book to screen adaptation you’ve seen this year?

Heartstopper. Duh. It’s YA heaven! And the soundtrack. Gah! I don’t even really want to read the Heartstopper graphic novels. Am I weird?! I read the sort-of sequel, Solitaire. But I’d prefer to wait for season two on Netflix to actually see the characters again. I love the Scott Pilgrim film but never tried to read those graphic novels, either. I just haven’t. 😅

What books do you need to read by the end of the year?

With Club Austen I am reading this Matt Haig novel with weekly discussions. It’s a journey!

The Midnight Library – Matt Haig

Of course, I won’t stop reading Heroes of Olympus. I love the final book in this series, so much.

The Blood Of Olympus (Heroes of Olympus #5) – Riordan

And for Jane Austen July…I’d like to try Sanditon, although which version to choose?

The Kane Chronicles trilogy – Riordan

This Rainbow Rowell audiobook is loaded up. Do your worst, Rowell! 😭

Eleanor & Park – Rainbow Rowell

Whew. And now: back to following Percy Jackson Fan Art on Instagram. You know where to find me! #fangirling

More book freak outs? 2020 ~ 2021

More fangirling? ~ Percy Jackson Playlist #SpoilerAlert

Chronic illness · Isolation · mental health · Neurodivergent · Poetry

A Poem Called See Me

I’m a passive poet. I feel the feelings, form a few words. Some of them camp out in my notes for weeks – months – before I complete the verses. The longest time I’ve taken to finish a poem is, to date, 21 months.

It’s completed today! My journey has reached a milestone to be marked by sharing a poem. This poem is the culmination of pain and progress. It is called See Me.

See Me

Not asking the world to change
How it's going to see me
Not asking the earth to move
Just hoping that you'll reach me

Glad of being alone
Uncertain where I belong
Aching for kindred voices
Harmony without a song

Not asking the world to change
How it thinks I should be
Not making too much noise
Just hoping for room to breathe

Training my ears to listen
For notes never before heard
Song fills the space between us
Compassion behind your words

I'm asking the world to hear
The value in what I think
Not asking you to care
Just claiming the right to sing

Breathe in deep and shout
Saved up enough hope to try
Tearing through my world removed
There's pain in living a lie

I am asking the world to change
How it's trying to see me
The earth doesn't need to move
For voices to ring out freely.

Robyn S.
June 3, 2022
Please do not use this poem without express permission from myself.

Different brains. Different bodies. Our oppressed. Our marginalized. Our people.

Take your time to get there. Then use your unique voice for truth.

About this poem

Sometimes I don’t even know who I am reaching out to – I just hope someone will hear and understand. I pray into the night that I won’t give up on speaking. A weakened voice is still a voice. ‘See me.’

I always have enough strength to try my voice again. Maybe the person doesn’t speak my language. Maybe they expect me to speak theirs. Maybe they silence me, refusing to hear. A perspective is like a musical style. An acquired taste. Let’s not miss out on greatness! 😉

Thank you for reading. Stay strong. 🖤

My other shared poems: The Fight, The Neurodivergent, Tethered

Books · mental health · Review

Mental Health In Life And In Fiction

We are halfway through May! How are things, so far? Are you escaping into fiction, as I am, for a little relief from the instability of the world?

This month, I practiced discontinuing books that are not for me. Can you do it? It’s hard! Since I wanted to read books related to mental health, it was especially important to notice if the subject became harmful to my well-being. Anyway, I’m proud to announce that I read one whole book related to mental health!

“I don’t mind worriers,” I said. “Worrying is the correct worldview. Life is worrisome.”

Turtles All The Way Down

I am also proud to say this was my first John Green novel! (No, I haven’t seen the movies either, and no, I probably won’t.) It was EVERYTHING I needed! I want to gush, but I’ll do one better – a list.

  • The main character has an ongoing mental health struggle
  • Mental illness is not Aza Holmes’ entire personality.
  • Aza is already being treated. She has a realistic relationship with a mental health professional, with a positive portrayal of clinical support. 👏👏👏
  • Relationships don’t pause for mental health, they re-route.
  • The effects of illness are not downplayed to seem less horrifying.
  • Aza’s thoughts drag us through a harrowing loop of doubt and pain. Yet we never judge her or get annoyed with the illogical bits. We can relate to the humanness of her fight, even if the struggle is beyond our own experience.
  • John Green has lived through his own mental health journey. It’s so important to amplify the voices of experience for mental health awareness.

A Narrative

‘I wanted to tell her that I was getting better, because that was supposed to be the narrative of illness: It was a hurdle you jumped over, or a battle you won. Illness is a story told in the past tense.’

In Aza, we find an intelligent teen with witty humor, determined to hold her life together. She chats with her friends, jokes with her mom, watches TV, and studies with admirable motivation. Anxiety is constant through it all. Functioning at life doesn’t mean she’s okay.

Aza’s thoughts were like a balm to me. Chaotic, sure. But the spiral out of control was familiar. It is comforting to know other people experience anxiety too. It’s quite rare to read from the perspective of a character who battles mental illness and feels like a real person.

Daisy surprised me constantly by showing up for Aza in ways that indicate maturity and emotional intelligence. Then again, these qualities are transferable from being a viral Star Wars fan fiction author!

Mrs. Holmes allows Aza space to be her independent self, even whilst worrying constantly (as a parent should). The trust in these relationships feels real, and worth fighting for as conflict unfurls.

Why Read It?

First of all, this book was lovely. I mean, the unapologetic nerdiness was glorious! The plot subverted all my expectations for a contemporary Young Adult novel! The mystery, the complexity of the relationships, and, above all, the hope instilled in this adventure made it an incomparable experience. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Why read mental health lit?

‘Anybody can look at you. It’s quite rare to find someone who sees the same world you see.’

A book should introduce me to a foreign perspective. I want to feel shaken from my assumptions. I want a book that helps me consciously stop and consider with compassion before assuming I understand someone’s experience.

To summarize, I want a book that respects mental health. Mental illness is not some plot device or lazy, trauma-fueled character development. When realistic experiences are incorporated into a work of art, the story becomes one of humanity’s struggle, unifying and cathartic. ‘Turtles All The Way Down’ holds up an unexpectedly hopeful message: The human experience may not be a linear one, but it is worthwhile!

Thanks for reading! 💚

Check out my previous post for Mental Health Awareness.

Anxiety · mental health · Poetry

The Fight

For a long time it seemed life had only one path forward. The Fight.

What I did not realize was that there were other people on earth who would understand. Trusting other people with my fight unleashed more hope. With hope, opportunities. There were innumerable ways we could fight together.

Anyway, this is a poem I wrote in 2018 and revised. I decided to share it for Mental Health Awareness Week in Canada. If you can relate, I hope you feel less alone.

Do not share my poem without permission. Thank you. 💚

The Fight

They tell me, 'Breathe'
'Calm down', 'Be bold'
They see a world
Without threat
'Where is the beast?'

Without The Fight
Where is hope?
Without hope
To defeat the beast
What is my life?

I fight without friends
Without needing care
And yet, you do care
Without even knowing
Where my fight ends

You know what I've done
Without giving up
Where have I ended up?
With my hope in closed doors
Hidden from the sun

Is anyone out there alive?
We could break out, unite
While this prison is my right
Walls won't deter me-
We need light to survive.

The theme: Accept help.

Because human connection is a type of hope, I am willing to team up, to fight differently. Walling off isn’t giving up. Accepting help isn’t giving up. 🖤

Stay strong. Thank you for reading! #MentalHealthAwareness #MentalHealthIsHealth #SickNotWeak

If you’re in a crisis and considering un-aliving yourself, remember there is treatment-reach out to a crisis line in your country:

Anxiety · Hope · music

The Grounding Of Robyn the Weird

Follow up to The Unmasking Of Robyn the Weird

When I was 4 years old, the kindergarten teacher Frank approached me on the playground. He gazed up, up, up. He smiled and said, “What are you doing up there, Robyn?”

It was a valid question. Why might a child abscond from the herd of children—the implied boundary of the play area—to ascend far above? I didn’t have the words to form a reason.

Was I scared, hiding? No. I wasn’t unhappy, perched like a monkey at the apex of a metal rainbow meant for bigger kids to swing upon. I had found distance there, softened sound. From a distance, the seeming chaos of running, swinging and shouting was reduced to an interesting, complex pattern.


A weakness is an opportunity to test and change oneself. Some say “I shouldn’t” but my favorite question is “why shouldn’t I?” Climb, try, stand up, speak up.

In middle school, I frequently isolated myself while recovering from—or preparing for—sensory overload. Why shouldn’t I be productive with that time? At the age of 13 my balance and coordination were lacking. I tripped – a lot! So, why not walk the wooden borders to the school grounds as practice? Those early mornings before the first bell, I chuckled softly when I could only manage a few steps before my feet slipped off the beam.

Eventually my balance had improved enough that the low beam was boring. Nearby, there was a sort of ladder made up of wooden beams, meant for climbing over. I thought, if I can walk a beam on the ground, I can walk one up there! Why shouldn’t I? So I did. The difficult part was standing upright once I reached the topmost beam. Slowly extending my legs, I took four momentous steps and sprung away to land evenly on my feet. And I thought with a smile, “There, that’s done.”

Head Down

Being looked down upon is incontestably stressful. As the smallest kid in kindergarten, I had had to look up at the faces of my peers. The tallest girl would pat my head and call me Fluffball. I didn’t care about being small, but somehow I knew I was missing something more important than stature—perspective.

A different perspective can be a good thing, however! I gradually realized that I was handling the ascent into adulthood differently, if not better, than some of my peers. Over the years, a handful of individuals would seek me out—vulnerable, heads hanging low—to tell me their fears and secrets. It was baffling. But I sensed I had been chosen, not for what I could say, but for what I wouldn’t say. I listened. In my world, everyone deserved notice. Somehow they knew I’d let them give voice to their pain.

There is a soothing power in removing oneself from the world. Gazing from my second story bedroom window seat, I could sway with the wind in the multitudinous branches, at home in my head.

When The Night Feels My Song

Environmental changes are especially significant for a sensitive teen. Throughout six years of Elementary school, three years of Middle school, then four years of Secondary school, kids contend with all sorts of changes. By the time I was sixteen, my family had moved into town, I’d started at my new school, and my new retreat had become music. The opposite of emotionless silence. The opposite of wind in the trees. My new bedroom had a stereo and speakers, and a ground floor window without a view.

As I struggled to acclimate, I fixated on my radio. (We 90s kids didn’t have iPods.) Losing myself in lyrics helped me deal with the alternating numbness and pain from the seemingly constant stress that had me sinking, sinking, sinking.

I was sixteen, obsessed with rock music, and finding that several hours within school walls grounded me to an uncomfortable extent. Music between classes, before and after school, and into the night could never fully return me to myself before the next day’s assault would begin anew. Anxiety held me in its grasp.

I had always found a way around weakness. What was the way around it this time? As in kindergarten, I found once again I lacked an understanding that everyone else seemed to enjoy. Was I ill-equipped for life? Why was I swimming with sardines when I was not a fish? I was angry and awed by their unity. Meanwhile, I was dying for oxygen.

The Climb

The worst part of the whole experience was I had forgotten myself. Unfamiliar surroundings had distracted me so completely I forgot that I had eyes and feet and the strength to climb. I struggled in vain to follow the crowd. I forgot to ask, why shouldn’t I be happy?

To my horror, my brain could not keep up with the tenth grade classes I’d signed up for. In defeat, I met with the guidance counsellor to rework my schedule. I also quit drumming with the school band because the class had been a disorganized waste of time. I had no idea what I’d prefer to do. My options were limited, anyway. I grudgingly signed up for tenth grade Drama class.

From the raised seats of the auditorium I could survey the foreign environment. The mysteriousness of a tall-curtained stage, waxed to a gleam. A scattering of tenth graders, in various states of sociability. Maybe…maybe the next part of my story wouldn’t be so very bad.

Why shouldn’t I find friends? Why shouldn’t I perform a monologue? Why shouldn’t I enjoy ice breaking games with new people? None of the usual expectations mattered here, such as note-taking or writing tests. Unlike my teachers during their frantic lessons, an actor on the stage held the full attention of the room. That was the rule. A very good rule.

Why shouldn’t I take self-led courses through online learning? I guess if I’d never dropped courses, I’d never have been offered the option of the cool, quiet room lined with computers where I could study and take quizzes as soon as I was ready. I felt such control, and such relief that I wasn’t failing again!

The World I Love

I felt like I had suddenly woken up taller and sharper, able to see clearly how the current had nearly crushed me. As I traversed the swarming halls to the auditorium, warmth swelled in my chest. New friends grinned back at me. Here was my higher ground.

How much have I really changed since I was a tiny creature unafraid of height or weakness? In adulthood, every questioning voice triggers inevitable shame. The weight of self-doubt never fully vanishes. And yet, why shouldn’t I be true to myself?

My hope is that I—present day Robyn—have more in common with the girl on the playground than the teen drowning her pain. Unmasking my sensitive yet bold personality may turn out to be a lifelong process! Nevertheless, I realize that belonging feels different for each person. As I open up about my pain, there is a new hope. I find myself growing to trust, to allow others to trust me in return.

Why shouldn’t we find family in each other? Why shouldn’t I share my struggles, so others feel less alone? That’s why I am here right now. With me, you too can unmask. There are no expectations or pressures to be anything you don’t want to be. Can you feel that weight lift?

Thank you for reading! 💙 ~ Robyn the Weird

If you enjoyed this post let me know. You may also enjoy the playlist that helped inspire me. (If not, let me know which music represents your transformative experiences!) 🎶

  • Black Hole Sun ~ Soundgarden
  • Head Down ~ Soundgarden
  • When the Night Feels My Song ~ Bedouin Soundclash
  • Walls Fall Down ~ Bedouin Soundclash
  • Clumsy ~ Our Lady Peace
  • 4am ~ Our Lady Peace
  • Nothing to Lose ~ Billy Talent
  • River Below ~ Billy Talent
  • Pain ~ Jimmy Eat World
  • The World You Love ~ Jimmy Eat World
  • The Climb ~No Doubt
  • Different People ~ No Doubt
  • Hysteria ~ Muse
  • Time is Running Out ~ Muse
  • Gone Away ~ The Offspring
  • (Can’t Get My) Head Around You ~ The Offspring
  • Fall Back Down ~ Rancid
  • Timb Bomb ~ Rancid
  • Silver And Cold ~ AFI
  • Girl’s Not Grey ~ AFI
  • All Apologies ~ Nirvana
  • On A Plain ~ Nirvana
  • Little Sister ~ Queens of the Stone Age
  • No One Knows ~ Queens of the Stone Age
  • Dosed ~ The Red Hot Chili Peppers
  • The Zephyr Song ~ The Red Hot Chili Peppers
  • Chop Suey! ~ System Of A Down
  • Toxicity ~ System Of A Down
  • Sugar, We’re Goin Down ~ Fall Out Boy
  • Dance, Dance ~ Fall Out Boy
  • Like a Stone ~ Audioslave
  • Get Free ~ The Vines
  • C’mon C’mon ~ The Von Bondies
  • Steady, As She Goes ~ The Raconteurs
  • Nothing Else Matters ~ Metallica
  • 1979 ~ The Smashing Pumpkins
  • The Diary of Jane ~ Breaking Benjamin
  • Motivation ~ Sum 41
  • Jaded ~ Aerosmith
  • Combat Baby ~ Metric
book tag · Books · Review

My Bookish Contradictions

My TBR is calling. I need a book binge! Wintertime also means cozy television, so I’m watching the series ‘Bones’ for the first time! (I didn’t have cable in 2005, okay?) This has me wondering, why do I enjoy procedural shows, but I don’t read crime novels? A weird contradiction! And today I have 8 more bookish contradictions to admit to.


  1. I love this genre but I didn’t like this book.
  2. I rarely read this genre but I loved this book.
  3. I love this trope but I didn’t like this book.
  4. I hate this trope but loved this book.
  5. I love this author but I didn’t like this book.
  6. I previously disliked a book by this author but I loved this book.
  7. I love this cover, but I didn’t like this book.
  8. I don’t like this cover, but I loved this book.
  9. Tag someone! (If copying, please give credit to Booktuber Only If For A Page.)

Beware, spoilers everywhere! Let’s begin.

1. Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

I love the dystopia genre! You know I do. But this supposed “classic” is terrifying in the creepiest way. Is it because I listened to the audiobook? Is it the orgies? The chanting? The voice describing the manufacturing of human beings, their drugged up lives, and their childlike uselessness?

In this book, humankind has essentially lobotomized itself, congratulating itself on a perfect system. Nothing is private or independent, but is that such a bad thing? A glimpse at an authentic human moment (most notably, death and decay) reveals a nightmarish truth: perfection is impregnable. (And, now I’m sleeping with the light on.)


2. The Maze Runner by James Dashner

I had seen the movie trailers. I expected some violence and impossible odds. Children fighting monsters. A doomed world. A ruthless game. My hand clapped over my mouth as, rapt with adrenaline, I sprinted to the last page. It was electrifying and awesome! (But I wouldn’t read it again.)


3. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

I say the best books end on a hopeful note. There should always be hope at the end of a battle. It could be a single moment, looking into the face of a friend (or two), knowing life will go on. Did J.K. Rowling understand? Nah! Instead, she gave us what she wanted: a picture perfect farewell to her beloved characters. (Really?)

Every important character married with a family, successful and happy. (Boring.) The baddies are dead or defeated. The good guys are thriving. (Where is the tantalizing grey area we’ve been navigating all this time?)

At some point between the battle and the epilogue, the castle was reconstructed (by who, over how long a time?) and the wizarding students became functioning adults. But, what drives them onward? What do they hope to do? These are the questions JKR couldn’t be bothered to answer for fans of this compelling 7 book series.

…and they lived happily ever after. The end.


4. Vampire Academy by Richelle Mead

Forbidden romance is so unnecessary! I say, if someone is not romantically available, move on! Reality should be enough to douse idealistic fantasies. In fiction, it’s not. Falling in love from afar, or in the workplace, or against all odds, is too much for me. A boss keeps noticing the pretty employee? (Gross!) A teen pursues the surly bad boy? (Uh, good luck?) However…

In Vampire Academy, certain people are born to be trained as guards. Vampire society also demands that royalty breed only with royalty. (I mean, that’s way too restrictive!) Please understand, these are the strongest characters you’ve ever seen! Rose and her friends are much more powerful than longing and unhappiness. They are definitely strong enough to overcome heartache and death (whichever comes first)!

This teen-angst urban-vampire fantasy with the “forbidden romance” trope deserves a chance!


5. The Best of Adam Sharp by Graeme Simsion

I bet you’ve heard of the title ‘The Rosie Project’. I love it so much. I enjoy the contemporary rom-com plot! The squirminess! And, especially, the dauntless Don Tillman and his found family!

But when I read another book from Simsion I was slightly let down. Adam Sharp is a music trivia-enthusiast who is slowly ceasing to care about things (like piano, and even people). Suddenly, he receives an invitation to revisit a past fling that might have meant a different life.

I liked the self-awareness and emotionality of Adam’s adventures. I even made a playlist of all the music mentioned throughout the novel! However, I failed to relate to the male mid-life crisis plot. There was no romanticizing this trek through Adam’s past choices. The truth is far too cynical (and, well, ugly) for my taste.


6. Life and Death (Twilight re-telling) by Stephenie Meyer

I love to hate this mish-mash of barely edited ego. Most laudably, this novel has no sequel. (Yay!) It was silly, fun, teen-angsty—and vampire-angsty—so I could not resist!

I disliked books 2-4 in the Twilight saga, yet enjoyed this little Meyer-mutant! That was unexpected. Maybe I just needed to return to Forks. Maybe it was the tragic final meeting between wolves and vamps. (My feelings!) I much prefer the alternate ending to what Meyer wrote for the original Twilight novel. (And, yeah, the gender thing. A female Ed? Hilarious, yet compelling!)

For more of my thoughts on horror disguised as fateful romance, please visit Twilight: The Horror Romance and enjoy the angst!


#7. Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë

Speaking of “horror disguised as fateful romance”… (Sorry, sorry, sorry.) I’ve read it twice, okay? It doesn’t improve for me.

The cover is styled with artistic depictions of moors at the mercy of natural (and unnatural?) forces. But the written tone feels forced. And so dramatic! This is a story about a failed human experiment. Will anyone escape the moors alive to tell all?


8. The Tenant Of Wildfell Hall by Anne Brontë

Fair enough, this cover is unexciting. When my book club decided to read the Brontës, I had never even thought of Anne! In The Tenant, we dive headfirst into a quaint village with Helen, a handsome, mysterious stranger. As quickly as we share in her fears, the curiosity of the village consumes us too. Who is Helen? Is the answer in her artwork? Her sneaky landlord? Her young child?

Too late, we realize that the question was not Helen’s identity, but the identity of those she left behind. There is suspense. Truth creeps in the shadows. Pastoral community veils a harrowing plot! (Truthfully, I’m more invested in every minor character in this novel than than I was in Heathcliff!)


Do you have any bookish contradictions? Happy reading, friends! (P.S. Can you recommend crime/mystery books for a Bones fan?)

If you enjoyed the post (thank you!) you might like… A Victober Bookdragon Hoard!

Health · Hope · Recipes

Eating, et cetera (Part 3)

Sugar or spice

I’m such a paradox. I happily eat the same breakfast almost every day (Cheerios and a banana). But I also adore new textures and flavors! The sense of taste is very connected to feeling safe. Comforted. Conversely, strange foods, whether subtle or strong, can draw us outside ourselves.

Your relationship with food inevitably effects every other relationship in your life. Do you chase new experiences? Do you share openly? Are you contently set in your ways? Are you afraid? Or, worst of all, have you quit caring?


I feel awful. I mean, I’m okay. But something is off in me today, and food won’t fix it. Sometimes that happens, you know? Caffeine doesn’t jolt. Breakfast won’t satiate. My head spins despite a full night of sleep. 😥

Enjoyment comes second to fuelling my lethargic legs and arms! It’s okay, on days like today, to eat what I can. In my head, I repeat: “You don’t have to go anywhere. You don’t even need to stay awake. You can drive to the store and buy the things. Or not.”

I think about blending up some salsa, but “meh.”

I play some Harvest Moon in which I “bake” a “Legendary Peach Pie”.

Then I remember that scrambled eggs are a thing! I scramble up those eggs, stir and season, then throw some chopped avocado and hot sauce on top. That will do. 😂

This counts as baking, right?

A mild crisis 🌶

Eggs are a perfect example of how important spices are to food! Through my fragmented thoughts, I am 100% aware that without generously applied ground pepper and a light salting, these eggs will be nothing. A total non-experience! So, even though I just want my stomach to stop growling, I make that effort.

I’m 33 years old. Jordan and I were married about 13 years ago. I had my “safe foods”, of course. And Jordan had not been used to much variety, himself. One breakfast food we would both enjoy was scrambled eggs!

Only, we couldn’t cook them. In hindsight there were two problems: 1. No non-stick frying pan 2. and no idea how to season food.

Honestly, where was this lesson in home economics class? 😲

My attempts at ground beef were just as iffy. Do you know what beef tastes like without enough salt? Uh…feet. Seasoning matters!

I didn’t give up! 🌶🌶

Who needs spice?

Answer: everyone.

At many points over the years my cooking skills have taken dramatic leaps forward! For example, actually salting the beef and buying that non-stick skillet! And then, there was the realization that I could no longer depend on spice mixes from the grocery store. See, in many of those mixes, staple ingredients are garlic and onion powder. These are yikes for my IBS. No, thanks. 😑

So I invented my own “taco seasoning mix”, specifically established to enliven the taste of ground beef! I started with, yes, salt. Ground black pepper was also very important for the “bite” required! What else? I had recently discovered cumin, and I added paprika too, for good measure (and for the color!) Now, to concoct the perfect blend.

A miracle in a jar!

It was… delicious! On that very day I discovered an intuition in the kitchen I had never felt before. This was a few years before I progressed to hot sauce, but it was the very beginning of my true relationship with spice. ☺️

Jordan and I have both progressed over the years to appreciate new and exciting seasonings and sauces—but those are many other stories.

Handle your spice 🌶🌶🌶

We recently discovered air fryers, so chicken wings are now a crucial (and spicy) part of our lives! 😋

I’ve learned a lot about myself through day-to-day cooking. I’ve learned that avocados are frenemies. I’ve learned that all vegetables taste good if you don’t over-cook or under-season ‘em. And I’ve learned that I am willing to handle raw chicken…if the resulting dish packs a little heat!

Venturing into the unknown.

I feel this message about eating can’t be emphasized enough: we are meant to love food! Everything that matters is linked to eating: community and family, performance and endurance, adventure and culture.

Allow yourself to look for the spice in your life. You deserve more than bottled sweetness with a pithy brand name! Demand everything from food—and from life.

Thanks for reading Eating, et cetera (Part 3)! 🖤

You might also like Eating, et cetera Part 1, Part 2, or My non-illness: IBS.

Chronic illness · Health · Hope

Eating, et cetera (Part 2)

It’s Sunday morning and I want pancakes. With strawberries. Yum, and coffee! I can feel fireworks in my brain just thinking about breakfast! It is sweet, satisfying, stress-free deliciousness.

In the past I couldn’t always enjoy breakfast. I guess that’s why I appreciate it now more than any other meal! It has been a long road to where I am now.

Eating, or Not

I didn’t have many “safe foods” as a teenager. See, when most food bloats you up like a balloon, it’s just not in your best interest to eat before going out into public!

One option I could work with was plain oatmeal (with no milk). That’s about it. Sugary foods made me feel terrible on the long bus ride to school. So, as my siblings downed cereal or a meal replacement shake, I microwaved oats and forced them down.

Fast-forward ten years or so and I was still suffering. Worse, I was limited to a narrow diet called a “cleanse” to “detox the gut environment”. I hated food. I hated mornings. I hated being in my body.

Food that feels good should taste good

At least this horrible cleanse introduced me to a new concept: protein for breakfast. Specifically, eggs and vegetables. At this point I honestly didn’t much care about taste. Even so, I desperately needed a reprieve from the same old flavors.

My salvation was found in a quinoa and berry bowl! Some days this was my breakfast and lunch. I loved the berries. The quinoa could be made in batches and taken to work for lunch. Best of all, it seemed to appease my turbulent innards. The combination of fibre, protein, fat and a dash of cinnamon – well, it tasted like hope!

These days, “cleanses” and “diets” are long, long past. Good riddance! I no longer dread breakfast. Still, eggs and oatmeal can be a little dull. Enter my next new breakfast breakthrough!

Sweet Strawberry Life

It’s Sunday morning and I want pancakes. Wheat-free, dairy-free, sugar-free pancakes. Impossible? Nope! I found this on Pinterest of all places! Pinterest pancakes. ❤️

When a dainty breakfast won’t cut it, this miracle of a meal takes under 10 minutes, smells amazing and pairs beautifully with every topping: fruit, nut butter, chocolate, cinnamon, or berries and vanilla!

Has anyone else out there had an epiphany about something so common as breakfast? Have you felt the excitement of discovering the perfect low-cost recipe? Ever been awakened to the lies of diet culture and felt truly free?


As for me, it has been rare to scent sweetness in the air knowing that smell was for me. Bakeries? Not for me. Breakfast bars were never for me. Party food? No, again. This single recipe freed me. I became aware of hope and possibility!

Although self-care is a popular term these days, the road is long to freedom from all the ingrained beliefs about healthy living. It was only a few years ago I taught myself that I deserve deliciousness every single day. Who knows what I’ll be determined to deserve next!

How about you?

Thanks for reading! 🖤 If you enjoyed this post, check out Eating, et cetera or My Non-illness: IBS.

Books · reading · Review

A Victober Bookdragon Hoard

Victober. I thought it was a spooky bookish event. I thought I’d need to read Dracula! Or Wuthering Heights (again).

I was wrong. See, Victorian literature isn’t all gothic thrill and desperate heroism. Morality may be expounded; characters self-aware or heedless, as well as the heroic. I have found this genre to be structured, inspirational, domestic – or a combination thereof. And sure, it’s often suspenseful!

The origin: Victober was created as a BookTube reading challenge!

I suspect it’s time to hoard some Victorian classics! Thanks to Club Austen, I’ve already discovered several Victorian novels that have transformed me. 🖤

A bookdragon needs to explore treasure from every era.

A Tale Of Two Cities by Charles Dickens

Dickens describes hope and strength in the midst of poverty. His artful method assigns meaning to the grotesque; poetry to the mundane.

A frenchman rejects his inheritance, dedicating his life to the moral high road. Meanwhile, an englishman is “recalled to life” from The Bastille prison. A slew of innocent, guilty, and morally grey characters merge in a maelstrom of corruption and revolution.


Suspense and secrecy unravel slowly and tantalizingly to reveal the truth in a shocking revelation.


Fiction based on a real-life historical event: the French Revolution!

The oppression by the French aristocracy reaches boiling point. The peasant class rises as one to revolt. Even an old school textbook version of events horrified my teenaged self. Experienced through the eyes of Dickens’ ink-for-blood characters, it is devastating.


Monsters. To read about monstrous people and their dehumanizing acts which incited revolutionaries to violence is horrifying.

North And South by Elizabeth Gaskell

Margaret Hale is in transition. The wedding of her cousin marks the date she is to return to the love-filled parsonage where her dear parents reside. She is then quickly and unexpectedly transplanted again, this time to a strange location.

Now in a factory town, culture shock wars with the upright Margaret’s dignity. She confronts her biases as she meets the locals, including successful businessman John Thornton. Meanwhile, her quick eye and capable mind unravel the workings of her new, fascinating home.


A strong female who is treated as capable by all who understand her. Margaret is deferred to by her parents. She carries herself with rational calm. By contrast, the whining and giddy females in her life tend to lift our queen high above all else.

Even today, it is notable that a female main character should be her own savior.


Tolerance. When the doubter, the believer, and the dissenter can work together it proves love conquers all! I like to see a productive debate over law, religion, and faith. Take note, 21st century readers!

I would compare Miss Hale to Jane Austen’s Elinor, whose strength was also necessary and self-perpetuating.


When a wonderful character is only introduced at the end of a book! Mr. Bell ties everyone together (I won’t say how). His witty wordplay adds sauciness to a languid stretch and develops every character he meets. He is gold.

David Copperfield by Charles Dickens

David Copperfield is a fatherless child, happily cared for by his youthful mother and her devoted housekeeper, Peggotty. When his new stepfather sends the sensitive boy to school, David finds protection under a charismatic elder student with his own dubious motives.

Life veers down the darkest of paths when David after his mother’s tragic death. However, he seems born to work hard. He has memorized stories and plays the hero time and again; the dutiful nephew, the kind stranger, the devoted employee. Will he realize that real life does not always deliver the hero from harm?


The found family trope! Specifically, the eccentric found family: Mr. Dick, Betsey, Trotwood, and Little Blossom! I live for this flawed, saintly, loyal crew.


A fake memoir. I don’t think this is an unusual trope in Victorian lit. (My favorite character of all time, Jane Eyre, was written in similar style!) They say Charles Dickens incorporated much of his own experience into this novel. I am sorry to hear it! Mr. Copperfield’s life could fill three lifetimes with heartache and drama!


A naïve main character. Time after time after time, David falls for a trick. A manipulation. A duplicitous friendship. I just want him to stand up for himself once.

So that was my October. I look forward to next year’s celebration of Victorian novels!

Above are the novels I’m coveting for my growing hoard. What are your favorite Victorian authors, novels, characters?

Thank you for reading! 🖤

Health · Recipes · Tips

Eating, et cetera

A new series about my relationship with food, my experiences, and a dose of humor!

Do you know how to pinpoint your favorite food of all time? I’ll tell you. Live with IBS for most of your life. Once you fear eating anything beyond the most simple foods, take note which dish you’d actually risk horrible pain for! Mine is salsa and chips.

“Even now, I hold on to fears. I perseverate about what, when, and how to eat. The act of planning, preparing, then eating can be too much at times.”

Can I still…like food?

I’ve previously written about my discovery of ‘Low-FODMAP’ to manage my IBS symptoms, which led to my discovery of pain-free eating. From that first moment of freedom I was fully convinced eating certain “high-FODMAP foods” would never again be worth the pain!

Except, what about my favorite food? Chips and salsa! I’ve always loved tomato-based sauces. Salsa with tortilla chips was the absolute best snack, in my opinion! Unfortunately, do you know what most sauces have in common? Garlic and onion ingredients. (Which I would now prefer to wear around my neck rather than to consume!) 🧄🧅🧄

New mission: create a delicious salsa that adds spice to life and is quick to make! Do you see where I’m going with this? I made the salsa. 😋 I know, it’s awesome! Fresh salsa is always tastier than processed jars from the store, and this could be cheaper, even healthier! 👌

Tummy grumbles

I have three states: 1) not hungry, 2) grumbly tummy, or 3) hypoglycaemic! Haha, it’s silly…but also true. 😅

There is a reason that quick is key. Sometimes I feel suddenly snack-y! On a serious note, my history living with IBS has resulted in a turbulent relationship with food. The queues that should tell me I’m hungry are still difficult for me to decipher.

Even now, I hold on to fears. I perseverate about what, when, and how to eat. The act of planning, preparing, and then eating can be too much at times. This is why I accumulate quick, simple, delicious recipes – for those days when I am desperate for something wholesome. Here’s the very first one!

Snack-y Salsa 🌶

Makes 4 cups of low-FODMAP salsa, great for dipping chips, for tacos, or as a salad topping!


  • 28 oz canned whole tomatoes
  • Juice of 1/2 lime
  • (at least) 1 Cup chopped green onion (greens only)
  • (at least) 1/2 Cup chopped cilantro
  • 1 Habanero pepper, chopped
  • (at least) 1 tsp ground black pepper
  • (at least) 1 tsp salt
  • 1/2 tsp cumin

Important notes

  • Ensure canned tomatoes are unseasoned.
  • A smaller pepper will be spicier! Remove all seeds and the white from inside pepper, then add to mix in small amounts to achieve desired spiciness.
  • Sample freshly blended salsa using a chip, and wait a few moments to gauge the heat. You can always add more seeds and/or ground pepper spice it up.
  • Best if allowed to refrigerate for a day.
  • If you prefer thicker salsa, leave some tomato juice aside (however, salsa will thicken as it refrigerates).


  • Wash all ingredients
  • Add tomatoes to blender
  • Squeeze lime wedges, add juice to blender
  • Chop cilantro (include stems for a stronger flavour)
  • Add chopped cilantro to blender
  • Chop green onion
  • Add chopped green onion to blender
  • Cut habanero in half, removing whites and seeds
  • Dice habanero
  • Add habanero to blender (See note)
  • Wash hands thoroughly after touching pepper and seeds
  • Add salt, ground pepper and cumin
  • Blend for 20-30 seconds, taste test for heat.
  • Pour into sealable container and refrigerate.


  • Cilantro won’t stay fresh for long. After washing, it can be frozen in containers (with a sprinkling of water).
  • To remove strong flavors from your blender: Chop a whole lemon. Add with a cup of water to your blender. Blend, then empty and wash blender.
  • Add fresh chopped ingredients before serving, such as avocado or bell pepper!

What do you think? Ready for a party (at home, in front of a great Gilmore Girls episode)? I thought so!

Life, et cetera

I am starting this blog series because too many people feel alone in dealing with their mistrust of food. No one should feel alone. We eat for fuel every single day! The way we eat should indicate a healthy view of ourselves: that we deserve what’s good for us. We deserve to feel great! 😊

I’m going to prove to you that you only need a few very simple steps to thrive. Start by figuring out what your very favorite food is, and make it work for you!

Thank you for reading! 💙

Anxiety · Hope · Thoughts

Checking In

It is the first week of September 2021 and I really want to write something! September is my favorite month of the year. I’m not a fan of summer, to be honest. Autumn is a glorious relief! 🍁

Problem: I have plenty of ideas for blog posts, but none that I really want to delve into right now. I poured a lot of myself into my last few blog posts and I might still be recovering emotionally.


Last week I caught a cold. I used my CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) toolkit to manage the anxiety over feeling ill (and getting worse). My doctor recommended a test for the COVID-19 virus and I tested negative a day and a half later. Whew!

I talked to my therapist on the phone for the first time in a couple years. I just needed to hear someone acknowledge all the internal work I’d been doing. I try to self-encourage, but there’s no replacement for the real thing: encouragement from someone who knows me well and can see how far I’ve come. 😊


Currently, my favorite way to get out of the house is to download a podcast to fit my mood and take a walk around the block! If it’s cloudy, I’ll go out for sure. If it’s sunny… well, maybe with a little sunblock and baseball cap and sunglasses I’ll feel safe to venture out.

A little inspiration, a little fangirling, and a lot of comedy!

I’ve been working on expanding my ideas of nutrition and “safe” food. For example, I love Ketchup! But, anytime I eat it, a string of thoughts disparage my choice: “You don’t need Ketchup. You know it’s mostly sugar. And high fructose. If you get gut pain, it’s your fault for adding Ketchup!” Who could enjoy a meal with that voice in their head? 😝

I recently learned that it’s actually detrimental to cut a food type from the diet, especially if it’s a broad group like fructose (a FODMAP type). So, fructose-containing Ketchup, you are now an important and valued part of Robyn’s meal plan! I also like to mix Ketchup with hot sauce for a spicier hybrid, or with soy sauce for a saltier option.


I hope that one day I will write poetry as powerful as Imagine Dragons! Their new album was released just in time to carry me through. Because I feel sad, I need music to remind me who I am at my core. Because I am preoccupied, I need to sit here and feel safe.

It’s okay to be not okay

It’s just fine to be out of your mind

Breathe in deep, just a day at a time

‘Cause it’s okay to be out of your mind

It’s Ok (Mercury Act 1) —Imagine Dragons

I have been thinking about getting my electronic drum kit back from my dad who borrowed it a while back, before we moved. Writing The Unmasking Of Robyn the Weird took me back to times when drumming was the only secure point in my universe. I want that again. Plus, Jordan has always loved that I’m a drummer! 🎶

The Future

Right now I am camped out on my cozy couch, with Spotify, Harvest Moon: Light Of Hope for Nintendo Switch, and Sweet Magnolias (that’s a great binge-watch, btw)! It is a safe space.

Three South Carolina women, best friends since high school, shepherd one another through the complexities of romance, career, and family.

However, from my current perspective, ideas for the future seem way too distant. My future looks like nature walks with my husband Jordan, visiting nieces and nephews, and trips to the movie theatre. How can we have faith that the future is on its way, when the present feels so very stagnant and dreary? I don’t know, friends. I don’t know.

Good News

Okay, first of all, I have set spiritual goals! I’m really excited to build a new prayer routine and read the bible, meditating on our loving creator. Nothing can warm my entire being like joining a Zoom call and recognizing that we’ve all shown up as a congregation to worship God and to support one another! ❤️

I’ve been reading just fantastic books lately! Young adult adventures, with happy(ish) endings, and imaginative fantasy worlds! The latest has been The Tethering by Megan O’Russell! Book two, The Siren’s Realm had the desperate sweetness of J.K. Rowling’s Prisoner Of Azkaban. I know, because I had to stop a while – you don’t move on to Goblet of Fire without a breather, am I right?

For autumn, I am excited about rainy days watching You’ve Got Mail and Gilmore Girls. Maybe taking walks with friends. Maybe new dinner recipes. The next book on my Kindle, the latest podcast episode, and the next Friday book club discussion!

I really, really want to be okay. I want you all—friends and family and anyone out there in Internet-land—to be okay. For now, okay could be enough. It’s not forever, and someday we’ll even be wonderful again!


Robyn the Weird 💙

Books · reading · Review

Jane Austen July

I’m obsessed. It is never a challenge to explore Jane Austen’s genius in my reading—and in life!

I love and appreciate Jane’s voice for its control, amusement, and moral judgment. I often feel drawn to pick up one of her six novels, whether ebook or audiobook, for its soothing and entertaining familiarity! Which would you say is your favorite, and why?

This Challenge is hosted by: Blatantly Bookish, Books and Things, and Spinster’s Library on YouTube #JaneAustenJuly2021

Impressions & Confessions

I was not early to appreciate this sort of novel. In fact, I watched the 2005 Pride and Prejudice film adaptation before ever having read the famous novel! To my credit, I bought the book quickly afterwards and it became my new favorite!

Next, I tried to read Persuasionand failed. The introduction and explanation of the Elliott family was so dull! I did eventually finish reading Persuasion, but my slow start had made the swift resolution seem far too abrupt. I felt let down. It would take a re-read or two before I began to consider this a favorite.

When I read Sense and Sensibility, I was hooked on the sisterhood and the inner strength of Miss Dashwood! I thought it was even better than Pride and Prejudice! (I still flip-flop between the two books to this day.)

I confess, I did not enjoy reading Northanger Abbey the first time. To be fair, I did not understand the gothic literary references. I didn’t realize at first that Catherine was more a caricature of girlishness than a heroine. In the end, I decided that Mr. Tilney was very much worth understanding!

Mansfield Park became an immediate favorite, contrary to expectation. Whereas Northanger Abbey is ironic and dramatic, Mansfield Park is serious. Fanny Price feels the atmosphere gradually shift as the Crawfords invade The Park. The Bertram family is seemingly oblivious to an unanswerable sense of impending doom!

I suppose that Emma is the most difficult to enjoy because the title character is neither innocent nor self-aware. But when I consider that this book is a comedy centred around a strong female lead, and that Emma has as much right as any male hero to overcome her flaws, I admit this novel is a true masterpiece!

More Austen!

Although I love her novels, their retellings and adaptations tend to fall short. Yet there are so many of them! Can you blame me for my trepidation?

#7. Watch a modern re-telling

Clueless is a sassy, silly, quality film based on ‘Emma’.

Comedy? Check. Clever female lead? Check. Social hierarchy, delicate friendships, and 90s teen rom-com vibes? Check, check, check. I have re-watched this so many times!

Alicia Silverstone, Paul Rudd and Brittany Murphy star in a pic beloved by all! The Austen plot is cleverly blended into modern Beverly Hills life. The main character, Cher Horowitz, plays matchmaker at her high school whilst believing herself to be above it all.

#6. Watch a direct screen adaptation

Northanger Abbey (1987) is based on the novel of the same name, but takes liberties with the overall tone.

The character development was severely lacking, which is an egregious offence. The one redeeming quality was its recreation of the ambiguous act of “taking the waters” at the pump room in Bath.

I shouldn’t be surprised, however, because many film adaptations miss the mark. If you had only ever seen the adaptations you might be surprised to know how deeply emotional, practical, and even silly, Austen novels can be. Here are four that I highly recommend!

#5. Read a book by a contemporary of Jane

I can’t prove this, but I think Charles Dickens must have read Austen! Dickens writes biting social commentary with heavy irony, intricate plot, and happy conclusions for the deserving characters. Sound familiar? Oliver Twist was excellent and suspenseful, and Club Austen will next read David Copperfield.

Maybe I should seek out books by other writers from Austen’s time period…but I’m not sure where to start. Help!

#4. Read a retelling

Pride by Ibi Zoboi

Zuri’s older sister Jenae is interested in the new boy across the street. This is going to ruin her plans for the summer.

  • Intelligent and caring characters ❤️ (With clever names based on Austen’s Pride and Prejudice!)
  • Dialogue-driven plot ❤️ (He said WHAT? OH NO!)
  • Tangible stakes ❤️
  • A clever, modern twist! ❤️ (Who knew that gentrification of city housing would be an excellent background to bookish Zizi’s struggle with prejudice?)
  • An artistic audio performance! ❤️

Longbourn by Jo Baker

I was very intrigued at the beginning to know how the maids’ stories would end. However, by the end of the second volume, I just no longer cared.

  • The twist: The events of Pride and Prejudice from the POV of the servants.
  • There are more secrets in the Bennet household than you might suppose.
  • A jarring flashback away from Longbourn made it feel like a different novel. It became violent.
  • An explicit narrative with darkness unnecessary to an Austen retelling.
  • The audiobook quality was as inconsistent as the writing.

#3. Read a non-fiction work about the regency era

Ellie Dashwood on Youtube creates video explanations of historical facts and literary references! My favorites include: Who Was Jane Austen? Her Life, Works, & Who She Wasn’t and Are Lizzy And Darcy in the Same Social Class?

#2. Read something aside from the main novels

Today I learned about The Canceled Chapters Of Persuasion!

These two chapters are an “alternate ending”. The unpolished lines resemble an original script, where the scene was eventually cut. It was fun to read, certainly! It was clearly replaced by the tense drawing room scene, with a secret, hasty letter professing love, and tender meaning passing between two sets of earnest eyes.

In this first draft, the resolution had occurred because a jovial Admiral (as his profession was bound to do) ignored social restraints to prevent misunderstanding, thereby accidentally forcing the hero into conversation with the heroine over the state of her hand and heart. It would have made a comic play, but was ill-fitted to satisfy the deep passions of our beloved Anne and Frederick!

#1. Read one of the six main novels

Earlier this year, I listened to the Librivox recording of Sense and Sensibility. I was surprised how relaxing it was to listen to a favorite, for example, while working on a spreadsheet, cooking dinner, or MarioKart racing.

My emotions are less engaged when I am listening rather than reading, so I notice more of the details. This week, I chose to listen to Persuasion!

Do you realize how many instances there are where we, the reader, are aware of motive and emotion that the characters themselves will not admit to? This novel should have been titled, “Obstinacy and Ignorance”!

So, Janeites…

I need your recommendations because I have been burned before!

Can you recommend a witty, charming, poignant adaptation? How about an informative blog, podcast or book? And would you please warn me away from fiction inspired by dear Jane that departs too disturbingly far from her style?

Thank you for reading! 💙

If you enjoyed this post, you may like Deal With Drama Like Jane or Queen of Highbury (Emma.).

Books · reading · Review

Mid-Year Book Freakout (2021)

Is it June, already?! There’s a heat wave coming this week, and I’m ready to hole up indoors and enjoy writing about some books. What do you like to read in the summertime?

This year has been atypical so far. I feared that my vision was worsening, but a trip to the Optometrist proved only that my eyes were chronically dry. Thanks to audiobooks, podcasts, and new music, I have survived the weeks of mandatory rest for my eyes. A series of treatments later, and I’m ready to get back to my ever-lengthening TBR list! 🐉📚

#1 Best Book You’ve Read So Far In 2021

A Tale Of Two Cities by Charles Dickens

A Tale Of Two Cities was just so poignant, and I need more! Charles Dickens’ voice is saturated with irony. The best part was experiencing this tale for the first time with my brilliant book club friends, Lucy, Mon and Maria! We are finishing up Oliver Twist soon, and I’m sensing another fast favourite. ❤️

Free audiobook available on YouTube via

#2 Best Sequel You’ve Read So Far In 2021

Ice and Sky (Ena Of Ilbrea #3) by Megan O’Russell

This is a story of survival. Survival for Ena, the enduring main character, and survival of a people who have been crushed to the brink of existence.
Ilbrea is a desolate place, but special folks carve out their own havens and make their stand against evil, and that makes this story worthwhile.

#3 New Release You Haven’t Read Yet But Want To

Tower of Nero (The Trials Of Apollo #5) by Rick Riordan

Apollo is changing. I didn’t know gods could do that. I guess it’s the immortality-thing. Thankfully, in this final instalment of this series, Apollo is still mortal!

He is awkward, sullen, and he is still playing servant to a snarky girl called Meg. Why not try to confront his mortal enemy? This can only end well.

#4 Most anticipated release for the second half of the year

All Ways by Kelly Coons

With humor and warmth, author Kelly Coons introduces neurotypical readers to the rich interpersonal lives of [two autistic] people, challenging biases about autism. At the same time, Autistic readers will feel at home with Andreas and York as they come to terms with their “differences” and move boldly toward their future.” —About ‘All Ways’ by Kelly Coons

#5 Biggest disappointment

Ready Player Two by Ernest Cline

Ugh, I don’t want to talk about it. (See my review at Robearsbooks)

#6 Biggest surprise

The Real Doctor Will See You Shortly: A Physician’s First Year by Matt McCarthy

This memoir was described to me as a funny, candid account of a doctor’s intern year. I’d been listening to a Scrubs podcast and hoped that this memoir would fit in with the humor/medical mood!

It was entertaining, sure. But it was also surprisingly compelling and full of human connection. Twists and turns. Dr. McCarthy recollects his excruciating progress through thirty hour shifts, stale food and trauma. Struggling to connect with patients without losing touch with reality, Matt is gradually forged into a Real Doctor.

I listened to this Podcast on Spotify, but here’s the main link. So funny, and interesting with behind-the-scenes details! Fake Doctors Real Friends with Zach and Donald Definitely check out the episodes guest starring Judy and John C! ❤️❤️❤️ #fangirling

#7 Favorite new author (debut or new to you)

Megan O’Russell

My favorite part of reading her books is that I never want to stop. It’s actually painful not to have the next book in the series! At least, I can explore her other series while I wait! (See my blog post about her latest, here.)

Suzanne Collins

I knew to expect excellence from The Hunger Games author, but her substantial, poetic prose surprised and impressed me! (See my blog post reviewing The Hunger Games and more…here.)

#8 Newest fictional crush

The Code For Love And Heartbreak By Jillian Cantor

This extra-sweet teen romance is loosely based on Jane Austen’s Emma! This Emma is a talented but socially awkward student, rather than a social queen. Why does she care about matchmaking? Well, she has to invent an app for her coding club, and—well, you’ll see!

#9 Newest favorite character

Javier (from vN: The Machine Dynasty #1 by Madeline Ashby)

Javier is an adult android, created specifically to save the earth from global warming. That may be the reason he was born, and what he is good at, but can he do more? And how long can he keep outrunning (and out-jumping) the violence and injustice?

Javier is supporting character to Amy in this science fiction thriller about artificial intelligence. The plot takes place in a dystopian system in which one religion monopolizes artificial intelligence. The extreme religious teachings affect all people, both organic and synthetic.

#10 Book that made you cry

Let Me Hear A Rhyme by Tiffany D. Jackson

You know that I love books about music! The poetic lyrics interspersed throughout intensified my empathy for the teenage characters as they grieved for their friend.

“Korey Jackson, Nile Bullock, Adenrele Ojo, and Adam Lazarre-White take turns narrating this young adult title set in the ’90s in New York City. Each narrator brings a unique and heartbreaking voice to life. The story follows two best friends who try to honor the life and rapping talent of a friend who has died. With the help of his sister, they hatch a scheme to make him famous from beyond the grave by getting him a record deal. The quartet of narrators has such distinct voices that the story plays out like an audio drama. These captivating performances will keep listeners glued to their earbuds. This is an audiobook that begs to be binged.” —

#11 Book that made you happy

Tone Deaf by Olivia Rivers

This is a special book. The author wanted to create a main character living with a realistic disability. Compared to the often romanticized dysfunction common to YA, these characters strike me as realistically sincere, and flawed, survivors.

Here, we have a book with a musical theme, but primarily we follow Ali as she fights for her life. After reading the final paragraph, I then jumped back to page one on my Kindle, starting it over again! It was just too emotional to feel everything in that first read.

#12 Most beautiful book you’ve bought (or received) this year

I had lent my friend a book a while back, and recently she gave me a heads up that she was mailing it back to me. Great! As it turned out, she was using this as an excuse to send me a gift:

A handmade book. Wow. Made from up-cycled material, this journal could be used as a scrapbook, travel journal, or maybe even a poetry book. I imagine that Jane Austen herself possessed a book such as this to record her thoughts.

#13 What books do you need to read by the end of the year?

  • I will definitely continue to read Charles Dickens.
  • I’ve just started another O’Russell series, it’s kind of Riordan meets Rowling! The Tale Of Bryant Adams
  • I’m excited to slip back into the world of androids via the sequel to vN …when I’m ready.
  • Did you know about Jane Austen July? Apparently it’s time for more Austen obsession, and I’m here for it!!

There’s no pressure here, though. Slowing down this year has heightened my appetite for both fiction and non, and I feel blessed with abundance! Please comment to recommend any great audiobooks or podcasts (whether or not they’re about books). I love to learn, and I need some laughs.

Thank you for reading. Stay safe! 💙

Anxiety · Chronic illness · Health · Tips

5 Crucial Truths About Medical Care

I have had health issues from childhood. I’ve looked back many times, wondering how it could have been so difficult to be heard, treated, healed.

I lost respect for doctors, lost hope in medical treatment, and lost trust in myself. I even stopped self-advocating at times, and just survived day to day.


I’ve recently overcome some great hurdles! I have released my shame. It is not shameful to hurt, nor to seek help. I can say aloud: I live with IBS! I’ve hidden it, hated it, and even hated myself. The craziest part is knowing that mental health is intimately connected to gut health— no wonder I’ve had problems!

If the doctors failed me, my education failed me even more. It failed us all. There was no map to navigate the boundaries of medical care. I like to believe we’re trying to remedy this as a country by teaching the next generation self-care and health awareness!

So, to do my part for health education, here are my five biggest takeaways from my 32 years of experience. I hope someone out there finds this encouraging! ❤️

Health Matters

#1. No two people are the same!

How do I know? It’s even evident in children. Energy levels and appetites vary. It’s normal for kids to run at different speeds. Unfortunately, despite natural differences, kids are pitted against each other in the classroom to encourage obedience, performance and learning.

When is this a bad thing? When children don’t know to say: I hurt. I can’t focus. I can’t eat this. Being different is seen as a failure to fit in with peers. Communication and self-awareness have two strikes against them from the very beginning!

Medicine deals in averages, but in reality any course of treatment that works for one person may not work for another! This leads to my second lesson.

#2. Simple answers to health and wellness do not exist.

Most of us are so disconnected from what wellness feels and looks like that we are unlikely to recognize an issue when it first appears.

It always seemed to me that doctors were only there for the big questions. And they were presumed to have infallible scientific procedures to diagnose illnesses. The reality is that science and technology are constantly evolving, which means that medical care is complex and changeable.

Ideally, a healthy person should have a relationship with their physician wherein they consult on any change in life that affects their wellness. This is the only way to truly pursue health.

Tip: Everyone wants to exploit your need for health care. So move cautiously! If it seems too good to be true, it likely is. Evidence-based medicine is the best bet.

#3. Everyone needs a health vocabulary.

There are plenty of words to describe healthy and unhealthy mental and physical states. Have you ever visited the doctor and not known how to describe why you were there? I’m sure it’s a common scenario! Unfortunately, educating the public is a low priority for the health care system, so we must educate ourselves.

For years I didn’t know anxiety was a normal feeling. I didn’t know how to describe stress, loneliness, or sadness when these became disruptive to my life. Mental health is a concept that changed my life for the better! Everyone should be taught to recognize signs of illness, and to talk about health.

Why didn’t our parents teach us how to talk about our health? Honestly, I doubt that our mothers and grandmothers were ever taught to listen to their own bodies, much less to talk about body functions. Most health questions were probably answered by unqualified family members!

#4. We know ourselves best.

Doctors know the medicine. We know what feels right in our bodies. We often believe we have no choice but to accept treatment offered by the first doctor we see. Fortunately, having access to the Internet means we can consult reputable web pages for treatment protocols and bring these up with our doctors.

Our lifestyle, our emotional state, and our investment in recovery all influence the treatment’s success. Sometimes, we may even say “no thank you” to a treatment. Why? Our concerns are just as important as the listing of symptoms when selecting a treatment options. We may wish to try alternative treatments prior to taking drastic steps such as surgery or medication. A good doctor takes our wishes into account—always.

Tip: Tell the doctor you’ll be back. When I was assigned to a new G.P., I had been waiting almost a year. When I began to explain my health situation, she immediately cut me off! I was choked. But I subsequently explained that I was ready to come back as many times as it took to find answers. After that, she always listened to me.

#5. Disability and illness are not inspirational stories.

We read so many stories about the cheerful perseverance of terminally ill patients, or about people living with disabilities. The reality is that suffering causes irritability, fear, loneliness and depression.

People living with disability might use a mobility device, but a disability can also be invisible. They may be healthy, or they may be living with illness. Either way, we all need to learn that disability is a way to be human! It certainly doesn’t exempt the person from the most human of experiences in life.

When a person strives for a balanced, fulfilling life they are not “being inspiring”—they are being human. Many people choose to share encouraging success stories, and that’s okay. But when health issues are viewed only as inspirational, we devalue the human experience.

As a kid with health issues, I thought to myself, “I’ll be kind and helpful, and have a fulfilling life.” But time spent on treatments got to me. I hated having to tell other people why I couldn’t do things. And when I couldn’t be an “inspiring” person, my self-esteem dipped low.

Self-advocacy is key.

Do you practice mindfulness? Children can learn this—in fact, the younger the better! We give ourselves a giant advantage in life when we habitually take stock of our emotions, our thought patterns and our body’s signals.

A deep knowledge of our personal traits can ground us during future struggles. We can then use our strong sense of identity to advocate and to defend our needs with medical professionals and with our own family!

Ultimately, the goal is a balanced life. Doctors should always be willing to help us get to the point where our lives are balanced. Even if we haven’t been balancing nutrition and exercise, this does not disqualify us from asking for medical assistance. Struggling to socialize, to get out of bed, to cook meals, to take even a short walk outdoors – these are legitimate health concerns.

I really wish I had known these things long ago, but I’m so glad to know them now! As a self-advocate, I believe we all deserve help from professionals who have studied human health and medicine. You deserve to ask for help and to receive it. 🖤

Anxiety · Books · Thoughts

Deal With Drama Like Jane!

Hey, Janeites! Have you noticed that everything is a bit much lately? Between work, a global pandemic, health stuff, and family stuff, sometimes the drama seems never ending.

Thankfully, we have Jane Austen! Jane’s protagonists are models of poise and gumption. Even today, in the age of social media, their examples hold up. Here are six ways to imitate these heroines when dealing with drama!

Be a Lizzy

Excuse yourself.

The situation: The wealthiest and most pretentious person Lizzy has ever met suddenly shows up at her home demanding to see her! Imagine being in your comfy clothes, unable to remember how you left your hair. All that stands between you and pure mortification is your composure, so you try to act natural.

I feel anxious even imagining this scenario! For those of us with social anxiety, surprise visits are hell. Thanks to Lizzy, if a condescending visitor stops by, or a stranger insults me to my face, I know how to respond with: You are rude, and we are done.

“You can now have nothing further to say,” she resentfully answered. “You have insulted me in every possible method. I must beg to return to the house.”

Pride and Prejudice, chapter 56

Be an Elinor

Let the haters hate.

The situation: While visiting friends, Elinor is invited to a group hang that includes relatives of her secret crush! Having already accepted that she and her crush aren’t going to happen, she decides to be amused by the family’s snobbery. They are giving her the cold shoulder in such an obvious way that it’s kind of funny!

I’m inspired by Elinor not to let negativity draw me in! There are always toxic conversations happening on social media. Sometimes my friends jump in and I have to resist engaging. But I don’t want to be like Marianne who embarrassed Elinor by openly showing concern. Let’s not give the trolls that satisfaction!

She could not but smile to see the graciousness of both mother and daughter towards the very person—for Lucy was particularly distinguished—whom of all others, had they known as much as she did, they would have been most anxious to mortify; while she herself, who had comparatively no power to wound them, sat pointedly slighted by both.

Sense and Sensibility, chapter 34

Be a Catherine

Speak your truth.

The situation: True, Catherine Morland is naive. Yet her openness is pure and admirable! Misunderstanding? She’ll clear that right up. If she likes someone, she’ll say it. It’s a rare trait, especially considering regency era women were expected to use a very specific script to properly socialize.

We are all taught how to make “polite conversation”. However, telling the full truth instead can set the tone for a deep new friendship. We attract authenticity when we show our true selves. I want to seek out new friends with enthusiasm and joy, like Catherine!

“Oh! Mr. Tilney, I have been quite wild to speak to you, and make my apologies. You must have thought me so rude; but indeed it was not my own fault, was it, Mrs. Allen? Did not they tell me that Mr. Tilney and his sister were gone out in a phaeton together? And then what could I do? But I had ten thousand times rather have been with you; now had not I, Mrs. Allen?”

Northanger Abbey, chapter 12

Be an Anne

Assume the best.

The situation: Anne is the forgotten Elliot sister. Written off by her family, undervalued and unsupported, she develops a keen sense for both genuine and superficial behaviours. She often forgives seemingly selfish behaviour. When a jilted ex comes back to town, she even manages to assume the best in his actions!

If I don’t know why someone is ignoring me or offering advice or criticism, it’s difficult to assume they have good intentions. But I want to! After all, when my anxiety disorder flares up, I don’t want other people to assume I’m ignoring them, or that I am bored with their friendship. Flawed friendships are still valuable ones, especially if, like Anne, we need help to keep toxic people from dragging us down.

“So altered that he should not have known her again!” These were words which could not but dwell with her. Yet she soon began to rejoice that she had heard them. They were of sobering tendency; they allayed agitation; they composed, and consequently must make her happier. Frederick Wentworth had used such words, or something like them, but without an idea that they would be carried round to her. He had thought her wretchedly altered, and in the first moment of appeal, had spoken as he felt.

Persuasion, chapter 7

Be a Fanny

Show devotion.

The situation: Fanny Price is the wallflower of Austen heroines. Her humility is often jarring. But she displays loyalty to her own values and to those who have been good to her. When she faces abuse or defamation, she can bear it as long as her best friends still think well of her. Her principles are a sturdy support.

I’m extremely careful about sharing my private thoughts and feelings. When someone earns my trust, I’m excited to prove my respect and affection! Like Fanny, highly sensitive people need to be careful choosing friends. Therefore I’m looking for Fanny Price’s qualities in a friend: humility, morality, and compassion.

Her own thoughts and reflections were habitually her best companions.

Mansfield Park, chapter 8

Be an Emma

Just laugh.

The situation: Emma is kind. She brings joy and energy to the lives of her friends. She also likes drama. Okay, she loves drama! If she does get hurt feelings, rather than show it, she’ll simply laugh it off. It’s a strength and a skill, especially in her gossipy town.

“Silly things do cease to be silly if they are done by sensible people in an impudent way.”

Emma, chapter 8, volume 2

It’s not about getting the last laugh. It’s about giving yourself an out! No one is perfect. If someone is calling you out, it’s gonna hurt. Laugh to care less about a needlessly rude comment. Laugh to show them—and yourself—that you’ve already moved on.

“It is very unfair to judge of any body’s conduct, without an intimate knowledge of their situation.”

Emma, chapter 18, volume 1

Above all, I hate gossip, which involves taking pleasure in the struggles of others. Gossip dissolves all trust. When a situation escalates, I try to remember Jane Austen’s advice as acted out by her radical protagonists: demand dignity and maintain your sense of self, despite how others behave or react.

Which character are you most like? Right now, I am probably most like Catherine, navigating drama unwittingly. But I hope to become more like dear Anne Elliott, floating undisturbed over a sea of drama!

Which heroine’s example do you find the most inspiring? Please comment!

Thanks for reading! 🖤

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A Bookdragon Hoard ~ Children’s Stories

Are you a child at heart? It’s awesome, isn’t it? Instead of lamenting all the books we didn’t get to read as kids, we can read everything we want – and then take a nap!

It’s good for adults to read children’s fiction periodically. It teaches us humility. To paraphrase Professor Dumbledore, age is guilty if it forgets what it was like to be young. Here are four kids books that I love and recommend. I hope you check them out!

#1. Planet Earth Is Blue

— Nicole Panteleakos

Why Read: This book invites us to examine how much the world has changed, yet how much farther we have to go when it comes to accepting differences and treating everyone as equal.

The first novels I read as a child were historical fiction. This beautiful story about 12-year-old Nova counting down to the Challenger launch has me feeling nostalgic for that time.

This story navigates serious topics including Autism and the foster care system. However, the plot focuses mainly on the relationship between two sisters, Bridget and Nova. Nova is a thinker, not a talker. Apart from her sister for the first time, she struggles to adapt to an entirely new environment.Nova is a thinker, not a talker.

Communication is examined as being diverse and unique to every person, requiring patience and a willingness to connect. Nova and Bridget have always used music and facts about space travel to communicate. As they share an increasing anticipation for the historic launch, Nova draws closer to her classmates and community.

#2. The Secret Garden

— Frances Hodgson Burnett

Why Read: Be reminded of the natural connection we have to our environment and all living creatures. Not only children, but humans of every age, can experience rebirth and discovery!

Mary Lennox finds herself newly an orphan and sent to live with an uncle who is a stranger to her. She is thrown into quite a new world. Not an unpleasant world, but one with strange folk with rather interesting ideas: The English moor is a beautiful place. A robin bird makes a loyal friend. A smile makes a face look nice!

But the strangest idea of all begins with the mysterious crying in the night and a doorless garden which seems to inspire a certain magic! The Secret Garden is a beautifully written story of redemption and the power, found within all living things, to grow and change.

“Is the spring coming?” he said. “What is it like?”… “It is the sun shining on the rain and the rain falling on the sunshine…”

—The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett

#3. Dragon Rider

— Cornelia Funke

Why Read: Return to the basics of fantasy reading! Recall the first dragon you ever met in a book. Root for unlikely friends and their quest to overcome evil!

Firedrake is a young dragon who sets off on a quest to find the acclaimed Rim of Heaven after learning that his home–and all the dragons that live in it–are in grave danger of a man-induced flood that will destroy their home.

We learn that many friendly magical creatures exist, but few trust humans. Can a dragon, a brownie, and a human boy survive a quest for the fabled haven? Or will they fail to save the last of the silver dragons from a heartless monster?

The fantastic voice of Brendan Fraser brings a great range of characters to life in this audiobook!

#4. The Mary Poppins Collection

— P.L. Travers

Why Read: Lets remind ourselves that childhood is a state of mind, and adulthood is just a trick played on us when ordinary life takes over!

The Mary Poppins Collection centres around the Banks family of 17 Cherry Tree Lane and their adventures with their on-again-off-again nanny. She is Elegant, Stylish and Proper. I’d follow her “to the stars and back!”

Mary Poppins leads the children to and from jarringly unreal places to meet odd and fascinating folks within the terribly normal setting of London, England. The thrill is in the contrast between the average and the uncanny! Somewhere, squashed between the tedium of weekly errands and the scent of fresh-baked gingerbread, is proof magic exists.

Is there such a thing as children’s fiction? P.L. Travers doubts it. (Quote from a lecture, “On Not Writing For Children”)

Believe it or not, I read all of these stories for the first time as an adult. And I loved them! True of many examples of children‘s lit, the lessons and imagery are all the more potent because they are written to appeal to youthful sensibilities.

Do you have a favorite children’s book that you first discovered as an adult, either on your own or with the kids in your life? Please comment below! Thanks for reading!

Books · reading · Review

Gushing About Heart of Smoke

Guys, I might’ve gotten carried away diving into fictional worlds and overshot to outer-space. Brain melting. Can’t stop spinning. 💫

Translation: I discovered an author who writes exceptional young adult fantasy, sci-fi and adventure. And she has four series already completed – sparkly and new! Am I dead?!😵

Megan O’Russell is a world traveler, professional musical theatre performer, lyricist, playwright and indie author!

Ena of Ilbrea Series

“Ember and Stone” is where it all began for me. It was actually included in a free trial combo called “When Worlds Begin”. Before I knew it, I’d binged all the way through the Ena Of Ilbrea series. The suspense pulled me onward as the plot unfolded. Assassins. Spies. Magical abilities. A powerhouse woman with snarkiness for days! Best of all, each character came alive in the brilliant dialogue. 🤩

Mood: Do you want a strong female main character? Still in the realm of YA, but exploring more mature themes? An immersive and cutthroat series with hidden magic, forbidden love, and rebellion?

Girl Of Glass Series

Exhausted and obsessed, I immediately found another series from the Megan O’Russell. “Girl Of Glass”, a coming of age story, features a slightly younger protagonist. Nola and her pure heart are infinitely dear to me! She’s a member of a privileged class, living in protective Domes, which makes for an intriguing dystopian perspective. We’ve got teen drama, betrayal, vampires, zombies – you’ll love it!

Mood: Do you want a high-stakes plot, in a futuristic society where climate change and disease ravage humanity? Oh, and a love triangle? If you loved the Divergent series by Veronica Roth (which I did) then you’ll get into this adventure!

Heart Of Smoke (Book #1)

I was dying of fantasy-adventure overload. OF COURSE I fangirled about it!! Megan saw my review on Instagram, or my blog, and reached out to suggest her new series. Wait. WHAT?

That’s right, the Heart Of Smoke series follows Lanni, a teen from the exploited class in the same world as Girl Of Glass. The characters, including the stubborn Lanni, are just as powerful and compelling! 😍

Mood: Do you want a fast-paced, grim tale about the bitter, angry citizens whose lives mean little to nothing, and a secret plot to exact vengeance? If you enjoyed clenching your teeth through James Dashner’s The Maze Runner, I think you can handle it!

Lanni works in one of the factories run by The Incorporation, supplying the Domes. She takes care of her sister, often stealing and lying to protect young Mari. Even their own mother has secrets. Suddenly, it seems, Lanni and Mari are offered a one-way ticket out of the burning hole they call home. How can they leave their mother?

Every moment is tense with fear and danger. Lanni is poised to play along with whatever elaborate plan keeps Mari breathing. But doubt creeps in as we race toward the end of book one. Who is really pulling the strings behind Lanni’s rescue?

What Next?

Help! I can’t choose! 😅

Heart Of Smoke was fast-paced and intense! That cliff-hanger, though!! It’ll be over a week (April 22, 2021) before the new sequel, Soul Of Glass, is released. I’m so psyched up, maybe I’ll read book one again! 😂

Alternatively, I have another YA series by O’Russell called The Tethering. Magic? Check. Teen angst? Check. Romance? Goodness, I hope so!

Or, The Geek’s Guide To Wizarding Mastery In One Epic Tome: The Complete Tale Of Bryant Adams. Whew, that’s a title! It’s four books about a nerdy wizard who’s always the sidekick, with quirky humor and hopefully some crazy-awesome magic!

So, the options are to read Heart Of Smoke again, binge a new magical series…or continue to drift aimlessly through nothingness!

Eventually, I’ll choose one and savour the adventure! Authors like Megan O’Russell are real treasures. What’s the last series you discovered that collapsed your whole freaking universe? I’d love to know!

Thanks for reading! ❤️

Autism · Neurodivergent · Thoughts

For Autism Awareness Day 2021

Hey everyone, happy World Autism Awareness Day!

If this is the first you’re hearing about autism, you’re gonna want a little more detail! I hope to share some useful resources to promote awareness and acceptance.

Why acceptance? A neurological difference, like autism, is a lifelong condition. Since it is NOT a disease, awareness is not enough. We need to encourage society to include and to accept autistic people.

Today, I’d like to recommend a few autistic content creators, suggest great books, and debunk a few myths. Here goes!

What is autism? Autism is a neurological condition. It means the brain functions in different ways to the typical brain. Metaphorically, you could compare it to two different operating systems that do the same job in different ways.

What is AUTISM? — Yo Samdy Sam on YouTube (7m43s video)

What Is Autism Truly About? — Indie Andy on YouTube (4m24s video)

“The five neurological differences being social, emotional, behavioral, cognitive and sensory.”

Autistic Identity — Holistic Autistic on YouTube (8:53m video)

What is masking? When a person does not understand the social behaviour of others they “mask”, or imitate, those around them to blend in. Examples of masking include hiding autistic behaviours, ignoring one’s own physical and emotional needs, and speaking from a practiced script.

What Is Autistic Masking? — Indie Andy on YouTube (8m6s video)

What Is MASKING: how do we do it and should we stop? — Yo Samdy Sam on YouTube (21m12s video)

The WORST ADVICE you can give to an Autistic person #takeoffthemask — Asperger’s from the Inside (9m53s video)

Traits (not symptoms) – Autistic traits are directly related to neurological differences and therefore can vary widely, from sensory sensitivities to communication difficulties; from intense focus to intense empathy.

“On the spectrum” – The autism spectrum represents myriad traits, challenges and strengths which occur in autistic individuals. A spectrum is often used to describe two polar opposites like “Blue is cool, but on the opposite end of the spectrum, red is much warmer.” But the autism spectrum is more like this image below!

Neurodiversity – A term referring to variation in the human brain regarding sociability, learning, attention, mood and other mental functions. Diversity is key to humanity’s success. Yet too many autistic people are unemployed or struggling.

Neurodiversity in a Nutshell — Stephanie Bethany on YouTube (4m29s video)

Book Recommendations

If you’ve read one book about autism, you’ve read one book about autism. Whether it’s a fiction or non-fiction book, it’s inadvisable to base our understanding of autistic people on just one book!

That said, plenty of books offer valuable info about the history of autism and neurodiversity. Even fiction can offer insight into cross-sections of the autistic experience! Here are my top three favorites (non-fiction).

#1 NeuroTribes: The Legacy Of Autism and the Future Of Neurodiversity by Steve Silberman

Neurodiversity, a term that should be self-explanatory, has been a reality throughout human history, even before “scientist” became a word, and before psychology and neurology were even a concept!

Steve Silberman is a journalist who studies the world through inquisitive eyes! I can feel his excitement—his intense curiosity— with each step towards the truth. His passion for people permeates these 12 chapters which read like essays. He weaves historically significant events together with fascinating narratives about people whose efforts have impacted the journey to understanding.

A concise history of “the spectrum” in podcast form, with source material from NeuroTribes by Steve SilbermanEp.5 Lorna Wing and Hans Asperger: An Untold Story, Inside Asperger’s (4m50s)

#2 Spectrum Women: Walking To The Beat Of Autism by multiple authors

Women on the spectrum have long been overlooked. There is hope for the future! These brave authors share their stories to illuminate the struggles autistic people often face. Their hard-earned advice will benefit women (all genders, really!) who are diagnosed later in life.

Check out the Not Neurotypical Podcast where Laura Zdan shares her journey to discovering her autistic identity as an adult.

#3 The Autistic Brain: Thinking Across The Spectrum by Temple Grandin and Richard Panek

This is an easy but educational read about autism from a scientific perspective. Temple Grandin is an autism activist and engineer. She has a deep interest in neuroscience too, so we benefit from her knowledge and experience in this valuable book. Learn about the different types of “thinkers”- which are you?

“Neuroanatomy isn’t destiny. Neither is genetics. They don’t define who you will be. But they do define who you might be. They define who you can be.”

― Temple Grandin, The Autistic Brain: Thinking Across the Spectrum

Books I want to read…

Mockingbird by Kathryn Erskine, Birthday Girl by Diane J. Wright, Show Us Who You Are by Elle McNicole
The Obsessive Joy Of Autism by Julia Bascom, All The Weight Of Our Dreams: On Living Racialized Autism by Autism Women’s Network, Ten Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew by Ellen Notbohn

For more book titles, I love the list at! ❤️


Myth: Everyone is “a little autistic”.

Fact: Autism is a distinct neurological condition, primarily affecting sensory processing and information processing.

Isn’t Everyone a Little Bit Autistic? — Asperger’s from the Inside on YouTube (10m video)

Myth: A person can look autistic.

Fact: People of any background or age can be autistic.

You don’t LOOK autistic? — Charl Davies on YouTube (6m40s video)

Myth: Autistic adults don’t need support.

Fact: Autistic adults face the pressure of society’s expectations. An environment structured around the typical “neurotype” will push these adults to mask their different needs until they burn out.

How To Support Autistic People AFTER Autism Awareness Month – World Autism Awareness Week 2021 — Indie Andy on YouTube (13m2s video)

If you have read this whole post – wow, thank you! It is so important to consider the many unique views and experiences of neurodiverse people. This April, let’s listen to autistic voices. Let’s ask ourselves, what is required for acceptance in our society? I’ll leave you with this quote,

“Viewed as a form of disability that is relatively common rather than as a baffling enigma, autism is not so baffling after all. Designing appropriate forms of support and accommodation is not beyond our capabilities as a society, as the history of the disability rights movement proves. But first we have to learn to think more intelligently about people who think differently.”

NeuroTribes: The Legacy Of Autism and the Future Of Neurodiversity by Steve Silberman
  • Are you sharing about autism this month? (Let me know where to find your content!) ❤️
  • Can you recommend fiction with autistic representation?
  • Can you recommend books by autistic authors? 📚
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A Bookdragon Hoard ~ YA Dystopia

Is it just me, or does now seem like a perfect time to read some post-apocalyptic sci-fi? No? Just me? Anyway…

I have three YA dystopian series’s at the top of my to-read list, so why not binge them all? Time for Bookdragon feast! First, we have Ernest Cline’s debut Ready Player One, along with its surprise sequel released in November 2020. Next, The Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins, which I have often considered reading. Finally, by fantasy author Megan O’Russell, the four-volume Girl of Glass series.

What makes an impactful dystopian story? It’s a paradise-gone-wrong, cautionary story. A dystopian society is both dehumanizing and terrifying! The scariest part is knowing it could happen to us! Environmental decline and bad government hit us close to home. My favorite plots involve advanced, problematic technology! I also look for oppression. And a climactic fight to overthrow tyrannical control (of course).

These two dystopian treasures were originally assigned to me in class. Having shaken my perspectives on humanity and individualism, they both continue to affect me to this day. The Giver by Lois Lowry and 1984 by George Orwell! From my teen years onward, both became the baseline I’d use to judge all future dystopian reads!

Ready Player One & Ready Player Two

by Ernest Cline


In 2044, the Internet has been succeeded by the Oasis, a virtual reality universe with every distraction imaginable! Its inventor, Halliday, has died. To hunt down an heir to his fortune, he has laid out clues throughout the Oasis — the ultimate treasure hunt.

While billions of people seek Halliday’s Easter Egg, Wade Watts is going to school. A parentless, penniless teen, he has yet to legitimately join the hunt, however he has spent every free moment studying the clues! Will Wade’s obsession with Halliday’s maze-like mind pay off?

An elaborate quest. There’s a fantastic level of world-building involved in setting out clues and solving puzzles with high stakes! I had the most fun while Wade fine-tuned his theories – especially when he realized he’d need a little help. It wouldn’t be such a cool quest if one guy could conquer it alone!

Online friends. Friendships develop in the Oasis, the kids never having once met in real life. And they’re beautiful connections based on common interests and shared experiences. I can relate, having grown to love many of my good friends online. (Shout out – love you guys! ❤️💚💛💙)

Nostalgia. Pop-culture references, (like Serenity from Firefly!) trigger warm-fuzzies in any fangirl. The culture-obsessed Wade shares a million fun facts about 80’s trivia and video games. The social awkwardness that accompanies his fixation is so extremely relatable.

Exposition galore. Repetition and a lack of pacing means we the reader must be very patient to get to the meat of the story. Wade’s narration of events is cynical yet humorous. But you might get a little sick of his “voice”. (Not to be confused with audiobook performer Wil Wheaton’s voice which is just lovely, bless him!)

Unnecessary sequels. In 2011, RP1 pleasantly surprised readers with an ode to nerd-culture. Nine years later, a sequel! We wondered, would it be a gift for Spielberg, best fit for film? Could it be that Cline actually spent the intermediate years developing his clumsy prose in order to advance his dystopian world, along with young Wade and crew? Answer: nope. Cline leans into his wheelhouse for RP2, barely developing anything further in this half-formed attempt at forced creativity.

FUN FACT: Cline isn’t the first author ever to spit out an unnecessary sequel! Did you know that The Giver was the first of four in a series that no one seems to have read? Yikes!

The Hunger Games & Catching Fire & Mockingjay

by Suzanne Collins


Years after war ravaged the population, The Capital Of Panem instated a tradition. An annual Games would be held, each district yielding a boy and a girl to participate in a televised fight to the death.

Katniss Everdeen is a teen from the mining district. She has learned to hunt to save herself, her mother, and her sister from starvation. Mostly, she blocks out the rest of the world. If she didn’t, she’d have to think about the odds of being chosen for The Hunger Games, which rise every year. Is she strong enough to stand and face those odds?

Politics, politics, politics. Panem leaders over-feed and excite the Capital citizens to quiet their voices. I appreciated the references to historical Roman gladiators who were likewise pulled from the mud and painted to entertain the masses.

A complex resolution. Um, to avoid spoilers I will just say that there’s no switch to flip a dystopia to utopia! Or from battle to peace. Or to make trauma okay. Collins writes gut-wrenching reality. It’s compelling YA that coaxes us into harsh adulthood.

Relics of a long-lost culture. ‘The Hanging Tree’, like ‘Oranges and Lemons’ in 1984, was a song referencing tragic events that had since been rooted out of the nation’s collective memory. These intensified the deep yearning for a better world.

Listen to Oranges and Lemons or The Hanging Tree

Disturbing images. The “mutts” (that’s all I will say on that!) I admit, I avoided reading The Hunger Games for a long time, despite all the hype*. A battle royale with children did not intrigue me. What can I say? I prefer governments that systemically crush their citizens without all the spectacle!

*But in this case, the hype is merited! The writing, the character depth, the stakes. The beautiful writing!

Oblivious protagonists. I totally understand that the protagonist, Katniss, was basically still a kid. She was intensely conflicted as her family’s stoic provider struggling to survive under Panem’s thumb. However, she flip-flopped between impulsive rebelliousness and coldly playing the “game”. Her ignorance of other districts and her lack of imagination were unbelievably frustrating!

Girl of Glass & Boy of Blood & Never of Night & Son of Sun

by Megan O’Russell


The world has fallen. Humanity is barely clinging to life. Its only hope – The Domes. These protect the healthy from illness, shelter the crops from the burning heat and acid rain… and they keep the others out.

Nola is reeling from the recent loss of her best friend. She is expected to follow in her agriculturist mother’s footsteps, an important career within the domes. But when Jeremy brings news of monsters in the streets, Nola struggles to reconcile life in the domes with the reality outside them. What will her uncertainty end up costing?

Normalized horror. We expect insensitivity from a government working toward a greater good. But there’s an even more disturbing transformation at an individual level, when survival means being numb to the fact that the privileged thrive while the majority suffer.

Morally grey characters. O’Russell does not just pin two perspectives against one another. Within each warring faction we find disagreement, varying levels of compassion, and complex motivations. The vicious, the callous, the charismatic – all draw their own line between right and wrong.

Literal monsters. Genetic manipulation. Experimental “cures” that warp humanity into something other. What does it mean to be human? What does it mean to be a monster, for that matter?

A bleeding heart. More than the usual noble protagonist, heavy on justice and self-sacrifice, the bleeding heart is complex and volatile. The author must somehow preserve and toughen this character’s essence. No one fits this description better, inspiring action and sacrifice, than the authentic Nola Kent.

Continuity issues. I had to search hard for something to really hate, and this is a small-ish thing. But the “Domers” need a medication to filter the polluted air anytime they go outside. The later books just sort of stop mentioning it and that annoyed me.

While I did binge through all three series’s, I just didn’t connect to all three the way I did with Girl of Glass. I honestly couldn’t be more pleased with Megan O’Russell. It’s as though she took several well-planned ideas and wove them into a progressively hopeful, death-defying journey!

My sentimental self wants to say one more thing. That the piece of my soul I once lost to Jonas of Lois Lowry’s The Giver has now come to rest on Nola, my new symbol of all that is good and pure! 🖤


  • The “nice guy” who isn’t really a nice guy. Won’t say which book did this best because SPOILER.
  • Overcoming addiction/substance abuse is an important issue that YA books especially should address very seriously.
  • The Chosen One trope. What makes them the one? Circumstance? A special skill? Society?

Not every dystopian series will be impactful. Some fall flat, failing to develop past the climax of their revolution. Some delve deep into a fantasy world, twisting dark themes until we question our own reality. (I just realized The Hunger Games and 1984 have this in common!)

The best, although based on a fictional struggle, will inspire faith in humanity. We’ll carry noble characters with us all our lives. An impactful YA dystopian is one whose victories over adversity become our own.

…but most of all, an impactful dystopian series leaves you wanting more. Because humanity is defined both by hope and uncertainty!

Thank you for reading! 🖤

How do you feel about dystopia in books and films?
Have you enjoyed the film adaptations? (Ready Player One, The Hunger Games, etc.)
Should YA always have a happy ending?

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A Bookdragon Hoard ~ Werewolf Fantasy

Werewolves howling at the full moon, trapped somewhere between human and beast. The appeal is foreign to me, although I do acknowledge that Remus Lupin of the Harry Potter series is a hero, an inspiration and the best teacher of all time! But…aren’t werewolves usually bad guys, feral, hungry and hunted?

To answer this question, I have scoured my e-reader, and Goodreads, and Google for the top choices in werewolf lit! I discovered a wide range, from unimaginative teen romance to grim-dark supernatural thrillers. From the wild wolf to the hybrid wolf-man monstrosity. And finally, I found a niche in the genre for a bookdragon like me!

Cry Wolf by Patricia Briggs

Alpha & Omega #1

Anna is an unforgettable protagonist. She’s a breath of sweet sunshine, scrappy and kind. And shattered. We don’t just pity her or admire her, we become her. After surviving isolation and brutality, the relief and residual unease of escape is staggering! Despite the brutality of wolf life, will Anna accept the loyalty, the love, of a healthy “family“?

A developed world. Patricia Briggs was a top result when I embarked on my werewolf hunt. She’s set up an immense urban fantasy world spanning multiple series. As a reader, I appreciate that the history and lore is woven seamlessly into the plot. I sought an enticing series packed with action and intrigue, and I’ve struck gold!

I hate violence. But I also understand it’s necessary to an extent for a thrilling plot. Fighting enemies who are willing to kill, and defending loved ones, will result in injuries – or worse. In ‘Cry Wolf’, we focus less on bloody mess and more on the mental fallout of trauma. It’s actually brilliant. So, I hate nothing!

Intense romance. I define romance as a character actively trying to fit someone new into their life, whether or not they end up becoming partners. Werewolf lore often involves imprinting, where mates are bonded in an all encompassing devotion. This is only romantic, in my opinion, if both werewolves have agency and interest in figuring out the new relationship. When they do, it’s compelling!

Phased by Victoria Tecken

On Goodreads

Want a standalone with powerful young women battling werewolf stereotypes? You must read Phased! The characters are endearing, infuriating, flawed and brave in this YA fantasy. A seemingly average school incorporates human and were students with apparent success. But they’ve never met anyone like Lyla and Val.

Sisterly bonds. Val and Lyla are together, and that’s what they focus on. Not the years they were forced apart while interned at the facility. Although many students at their new boarding school fear the girls, they are not as alone as they expected to be. Alternating perspectives reveal a snarky, sweet and raw relationship.

Over-dependence on the alpha trope. Briefly, the alpha is a boss wolf. Betas naturally follow the alpha. Omegas are lone wolves, basically exempt from the wolf hierarchy. Pack status does play a clear role in the story, but I seriously doubt a school could remain standing with so many alphas in one building! Also, complex personalities should factor into whether an alpha werewolf garners respect from “the pack”.

Dystopia. A broken society with science fiction elements. A world in which werewolves, though commonplace, are subject to prejudice and discrimination. I. Love. This. The elaborate settings and medical technology drew me in. Toxic language such as “feral” and “assimilation” had me clambering for reform.

Wolves And Roses by Christina Bauer

Fairy Tales of the Magicorum Book 1

All Bryar Rose really wants is to study Ancient Egyptian papyri and hang out with her rebellious bestie, Cinderella aka Elle. But a recurring dream – the one with a wolf and a sexy guy – may mean she’s in danger! She’s going to need all of her teenage sass and martial arts skills to survive her eighteenth birthday.

A real, live girl. Yes, Bryar will need the help of her magical friends, including a gruff werewolf named Knox who melts her heart. But she’s no damsel. Her hopes, interests, ideas and beliefs are present throughout the story. There’s doubt, shock, mistaken confidence. She is so much the over-sheltered teen with a rebellious streak, I want to give her a hug and buy her some french fries!

Basic descriptors. Authors, if you’re only going to describe the main character as having “blue eyes and brown hair” then why bother? There are a zillion hair types and body types and attitudes to feed us an image of your character. I want to know what about this young woman demands my attention. And that had better not be the hue of her hair. That said, these characters had sass for days, so I’ll temporarily overlook the dull descriptors. End of rant.

It’s about the magic. Underneath the friendship, family dysfunction, fledgling romance and petty crime, the main theme is magic. Magicians hide their abilities like the gems in their unassuming sport coat pockets. Shifters mask the golden gleam of their eyes as they slip out of the city to take animal form. And fairies. Well, fairies are divas, clever, resourceful and fond of drama. A disastrous mix!

I shudder to recall the interest with which my callous teen self once indulged in the beauty-becomes-beast gore-fest called ‘Ginger Snaps’.

These are my three favorite werewolf novels! Not only do I need to know what’s next for the characters, but I’m invested in their worlds. Could Bryar and Elle be destined for high school high jinks? Will there be a sequel to Phased? What other forms of shifters will appear in Patricia Briggs’ other books?

I also enjoyed comparing transformations! Do you like your werewolves more canine or monstrous? Relatable or insatiable? I was surprised to find that I enjoyed both – the more natural wolf form in ‘Cry Wolf’ and the fiercer biped form in ‘Phased’. It turns out the struggle with an inner beast is exciting and compelling. I can’t help but love a werewolf story!

  • Do you have a favorite werewolf?
  • Can you suggest another great book or series about shapeshifters?
  • Thanks for reading! 🖤
Books · music · reading · Review

A Bookdragon Hoard ~ Urban Fantasy

Hello, there! I hope you have lots to read. I sure do, more than a Bookdragon could read in a year. Not that I should brag about my hoarding tendencies…but I do want to brag about three of my bookish treasures!

I am comparing three books from the young adult genre, specifically: Urban Fantasy. Urban Fantasy basically means there’s magic going on, but the story takes place in our familiar old world on planet earth.

The problem with reviewing books is that I love each and every one for unique reasons. It’s tough! Hey— what if I tell you exactly what I love and hate about my treasures? You can judge the value for yourself and perhaps find new treasures for your own hoard.

#1 Titus Fogg by Aaron Piper

(The Wyrd Book 1)

Titus Fogg is a normal high school student. At least that’s what he keeps saying to himself. But is it normal to be suspected of murder? Or to argue with your pervy shadow? Or to enjoy algebra? At the very least, he’d like to keep the m-word out of things, given how magic has ruined his life so far!

Tess Roe loves scary films, soccer, and the ancient library where her mother works crazy hours. When she meets the new kid, Titus, she’s aware he’s weird, insane and possibly homicidal. She senses something more in him, however, and soon she’s sucked into his world of Wyrd with no way out.

Characters with weaknesses. Trust issues. Callousness. Pig-headedness. Prejudice. Titus lacks social skills, but is a mathematical genius. Tess has anger issues, but oozes compassion. Can two substantially flawed kids turn their weirdness their advantage? Or will evil overtake them before they can figure out they need each other?

When the point of view changes between several characters! When executed well, the switch between POVs heightens suspense while illuminating relationship dynamics.

Terrible editing. I sincerely hope there’s a better edited version out there. Spelling errors like loose instead of lose and a misused word or two, like sympatic instead of sympathy, kept me from losing myself in the magic!

Mystery. I enjoy guessing, figuring out the characters and their motives. We’re given nothing more about Titus, Tess and their families than is necessary to follow the plot. As the reader, I felt respected. I trusted that every gory, unexpected event was leading to a big reveal!

#2 We Own The Sky by Sara Crawford

(The Muse Chronicles Book 1)

Sylvia Baker is musical. Music should be the antithesis of depression, but not in her case. Her summer was punctuated with a visit to an in-patient care facility. Her very young single father is a recovering addict. Sylvia struggles with his local fame and her own loneliness.

Her life is about to change when Sylvia meets a dark stranger. Suddenly inspired, she realizes how important he is to her journey as a musician—maybe even to her as a person. Is music the cure? Can she balance her obsession with the flighty Vincent, her new friends, her band, and her dad’s sobriety?

An emotional artist’s view of her craft. Music is my favorite subject for an art-fueled novel! It’s magical, mythical, how music connects thought and feeling; draws folks of all different experiences together. In ‘We Own The Sky”, Art with a capital A is described as an almost supernatural motivation. And yet, the most basic of human emotions are deeply imbedded in musical expression.

Grab your headphones and breathe in Sylvia’s playlist as she meets her Muse, exploring new avenues of herself and bringing us along for the ride. Flying, falling, grieving, transforming— it’s all experienced through the concept of music. 🎶

Interesting side characters. The more great characters the better, I say. The sensational personalities in Sylvia’s life include Travis, a self-assured and gifted lead singer, Vincent, a dejected and intense loner, and Mariella, a spunky Muse with poor punctuality!

Brushing mental health issues under the rug. It’s absolutely amazing when a character fights their demons, accepts help, and pulls out the other side having learned to trust. That being said, it’s dangerous when an author portrays mental health in a misleading way. To be very honest, I found this attitude triggering.

Sylvia lies about taking her meds. She lies about returning her therapist’s calls. And she lies about her suicide attempt. I kept waiting, waiting, waiting for her to realize that it was okay to get help. Worse, the fantasy element is used to explain book’s dismissive attitude toward treatment.

When the main character realizes she fits in after all! You know I am all for angsty, no-one-gets-me, lonely-punk-teenager tropes. But even better than that? Our lonely-punk-teen finds a friend group! She opens up to new experiences and personalities! She finds she belongs! Real life, right there. We all belong somewhere.

#3 The Hidden Oracle by Rick Riordan

(The Trials of Apollo series Book 1)

Apollo. The Greek god of the sun, music, and being mega hot! *poses for photo op*! Being immortal makes a person have a big head, it’s not Apollo’s fault he’s amazing! *flashes a blinding grin* But according to daddy Zeus, that recent situation with the half-bloods was his fault. Big time. And his punishment is way unfair: mortality.

Apollo finds himself un-amazing, in the mortal world, hoping a little girl will save him! What he really needs is a few half-bloods to accept the great honor of questing for him! Unfortunately, he’s got a lot to learn about mortal life. Turns out he doesn’t know much about demigods, either.

Mythology in modern day. As the fans of the Riordanverse well know, being a demigod is dangerous business! Humans remain cheerfully oblivious, while monsters and other ruthless mythical beings tend to make life suck for people like Percy Jackson. Did I mention that Olympus is atop the Empire Stare Building in NYC? No one adapts Greek lore into trage-larious adventure like Rick Riordan.

Un-relatable main characters. I’m drawn to books with great character development. That means a character has to be fully formed, flawed, and functional before the events of the story take place. I’m not sure Apollo counts by this description. Can he even improve himself as a (former) god among men?

Tying in characters from previous storylines. Hey, Percy! Missed you, man. I enjoyed catching a glimpse of several other favourites from the series Heroes of Olympus. Will Solace, son if Apollo, is one of them. He’s a skilled healer at Camp Half-Blood. Friendly and easy-going, Will is the ideal tour guide for his disillusioned dad.

All three of these books boast realistic city backdrops with uncanny twists on magic and mythology—top-tier Urban Fantasy. In reviewing these beauties, I have very intentionally avoided contrasting them with popular works of the same genre. Reviewers love to say “for fans of Harry Potter” or “for fans of Twilight” or “for fans of Percy Jackson”. But I say, let’s give new stories a chance to be special on their own merit! Thanks for reading. 🖤

  • Have you enjoyed any of these books/authors? 💎
  • Would you like more Love/Hate/Like reviews from me? ❤️
  • Would you identify yourself as a Bookdragon? 🐉
Books · reading · tag

Mid-Year Book Freakout (2020)

I started the year with goals because I love an excuse for a fresh start! Mainly, I decided that this year should have a bookish direction. I wanted to read with purpose, which prompted the following aims.

  • Read books from my bookshelf!
  • Read more non-fiction!
  • Choose a short list of absolute-must-reads!
  • Explore children’s books that I never read as a kid!

Don’t these sound wonderful? So, I wrote up my little list, proud and excited to get it started. I wasn’t doing badly at all – and then the world went sideways. I hope this Tag will help me assess my reading goals, and my progress so far! Here goes.

#1 Best Book You’ve Read So Far In 2020

A Heart So Fierce And Broken by Brigid Kemmerer

After reading A Curse So Dark And Lonely, I wanted the sequel so badly! But I’d have to wait six months. Once I finally had a copy on my Kindle, all thoughts of other books vanished! I fell into the story of Lia Mara, her sisterhood, her inner conflict… her enigmatic new ally, Grey. Although it wasn’t what I expected, I loved it!

#2 Best Sequel You’ve Read So Far In 2020

Inkspell by Cornelia Funke

I read Inkheart, Inkspell and Inkdeath between January-February! And my heart belongs to Meggie and her father the book doctor. A shared love of reading unites them despite danger and loss.

#3 New Release You Haven’t Read Yet

The Shape Of Family by Shilpi Somaya Gowda


#4 Most Anticipated Release

Jane Austen Society by Natalie Jenner

I’ve noticed this one on Instagram lately. I don’t often rush to buy new releases but I love Jane Austen SO much, I must read this book!

#5 Biggest Disappointment

Sinful Cinderella by Anita Valle

This was my cautionary tale… my timely reminder that a free ebook with favourable reviews may not be my cup of tea.

#6 Biggest Surprise

Agnes Grey by Anne Brontë

My book club read this together recently. Based on Anne Brontë’s other novel, I was not expecting sweet, pious Agnes. I love when a patient, compassionate woman stands strong to the end.

#7 Favorite New Author

Genevieve Cogman (Author of The Invisible Library series)

Irene is a spy. For a secret library. She is skilled, and she loves her career, even on its worst days. Like when she has a trainee shadowing her the same day the Library’s safety is threatened. I was psyched to find out this series has 7 volumes! Speaking of which, ebook 2 just became available… thanks, visible library!


#8 Newest Fictional Crush

Kai (The Invisible Library)

Irene’s new trainee, Kai, is mysterious, passionate *sizzle* and determined to excel in his first ever mission for The Library. (The Invisible Library by Genevieve Cogman)

#9 Newest Favorite Character

Anne Shirley (Anne of Green Gables)

Anne is a beautiful soul. I can’t believe I didn’t read these books as a kid! I even had an Anne doll, and I remember watching the Canadian TV series. Well, I’ve read the first one now!

#10 Book That Made You Cry

The Golden Son by Shilpi Somaya Gowda

The heartbreak was worth it. That is all.


#11 Book That Made You Happy

The Lightning Thief (Percy Jackson and the Olympians #1) by Rick Riordan

So, the world went sideways, and I just wanted to read a fun, familiar adventure!

Illustration from

#12 Most Beautiful Book You’ve Bought This Year

Mary Poppins 80th Anniversary Collection by P.L.Travers

Yes, it is an ebook. But the illustrations are magic!


#13 What books do you need to read by the end of 2020?

I’ll be disappointed if I haven’t read these by the end of 2020:

  • Anne of Green Gables series by L.M. Montgomery
  • The Hunger Games series by Suzanne Collins
  • The Lord of the Rings series by J.R. Tolkien
  • The Heroes of Olympus series (re-read) by Rick Riordan
  • I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
  • Alice In Wonderland by Lewis Carroll

So, I’ve decided that I’m on track with my re-reads, and YA/children’s stories! I’m excited to discover the classic fantasy genre. And, as a fan of dystopian reads like The Maze Runner and Divergent, I hope I’ll enjoy Suzanne Collins. Are any of these books on your list?

Thanks for reading! 🖤

Anxiety · Hope · Poetry


If we compare the global pandemic

To an earthquake

A seismic event

The winter of ’22-’23 is an aftershock


It’s important to prepare

For aftershocks too

Even if they aren’t as violent

As the original threat itself


Help those who need help

Educate, take precautions

Immune systems are structures

Being re-fortified


Avoid unsafe areas

Keep first-aid and necessities stocked

Keep encouraging and bolstering too

Share provisions with those in need


We live on a faultline

Everyone faces fear differently

As we shakily move forward

Keeping together is more important than ever


Winter 2023

I’m shaken. I think everyone is and that’s the natural response to a global shift. It’s disheartening, discouraging as fear stretches beyond the pandemic. There’s no “new normal” that I can see, just billions of individuals struggling to carry on. Is “normal” even necessary for a good life?

Going forward, we seem to be much more self-aware and adaptable. Are these good things? For survival, we need both hope and strategy. Get hope from helping one another. Be prepared, well-educated, and responsible. Remember, invisible things mold our collective future – threats, but also fears and broken hearts.

Thank you for reading! 💙